Well, when my girlfriend and I finally do have sex, I want to be able to do everything within reason to loosen her up (she's so tight she can't use tampons O_o).
From what I read, oral and fingering are good. Fingering I can do, I'm pretty dexterous, but... I have a tongue-tie. I can't get my tongue out enough to lick a spoon clean, i have to suck everything off of it.
Are there any suggested methods for this problem? I've already told her I would get it cut if it would make her happy, and I think I'm going to anyway... But until then, I need help!
There is really nothing you can do except to support her. This is something she must do to and for herself.
I have addressed this matter many times. Please do an advanced search using my name and search words like: exercise, bathtub, bubblebath, tug.
Here is one such recent reply:
"There is nothing you can personally do to change her tightness; however, this is something she can do. There are two approaches; first, she can use a graduated dildo or some items like an English cuccumber, carrot stick, or candle stick to work with the vaginal opening in order to make it more complient. Second, she can do an exercise I recommend that is to soak in a bathtub filled with clear warm water--no soap or bubble bath. The warm water will help soften her skin. While sitting she can insert a finger and tug on the entrance holding the pressure for a few moments before moving on to the next quadrant.
The exercise takes a good couple of weeks or so of daily stretching. At some point she should be able to insert two fingers, either from one hand or one from each. Either way, she can continue tugging only this time using her fingers in opposition as she works her way around. She should plan on spending about twenty minutes or so at this once or twice a day. You may or may not ever get three fingers to go inside, it all depends....
Hymens come in all shapes, sizes, thicknesses, and, hole patterns.
You should know how yours is constructed, so, at some point, take
a hand mirror and light and go exploring.
If your hymen only partially obstructs the passageway, then you
can tug against it by placing a finger between it and the vaginal
wall. If it has a fairly large opening within the membrane, you
might try working with it to enlarge it."
Your issue is really not your g/f; it is your tongue. That is easily repaired. See your doctor.
In the meantime, your g/f should see her gyn and get a complete exam.
yea learn to stick that tong out young man
Not a simple solution of learning to stick it out, I'll need to have surgery to get it to stick out. Only problem is my parents wont let me do it unless i have a good reason... and "So I can make sex easier" isn't good. So I'd have to wait till I'm 18.
My real question was... what other techniques can I use? I've seen doc make a mention about vibrating the lips, anything else?
Also... she has issues with pretty much anyone besides me touching her... including her doctors... any tips on this? I'd go with her, but she'd prolly say no.
yea I was joking if you have a problem you have a problem, you could use your lips as much as possible or perhaps concentrate on fingering