[QUOTE=I'maguy]Hi, my girlfriend just recently began giving me blow jobs. She is very good at doing it. Unfortunately she always stops before I climax, and it is not that I take too long, she just stops after about 5 minutes and it is very strange with her just stopping, it is almost frustrating because I don't have an orgasm even though I am close. Is there a reason she just stops? Or is there something I can say or something? I dobn't really know what to do, it just throws me off.[/QUOTE]

Have you asked her if she likes doing it? Or is she just doing it because you like it? Perhaps she's trying to avoid the ejaculate? Oral copulation doesn't necessarily have to be done through the point of climax. You can switch to an intercourse position prior to that point. If you're using it for an intercourse substitute then you're going to have to discuss it with her...

Well....the answer is a bit more obvious than the musings, above.

Just look around the site, I have discussed this just about every day recently!

One of my posts to which Brandye wholeheartedly agreed was when I offered the suggestion that the words "tired" "sore" and "bored" came to mind, although with regard to the reverse scenario. What prompted my retort was when someone else offered the recommendation that the guy devote up to two (2) hours! stimulating his partner orally!!

> Unfortunately she always stops before I climax, and it is not that I take too long, she just stops after about 5 minutes and it is very strange with her just stopping, it is almost frustrating because I don't have an orgasm even though I am close....

Let's get real, or rather practical. Yes, you are taking too long. **

After five (5) minutes? Those same words come to mind!

Yes, I know, you, I and probably most of the rest of us of the male persuation would probably like the nirvana generated by oral stimulation to go on for two hours, although five minutes is probably the extended limit of practicality before her jaw and/or lip and/or tongue become tired or sore and she simply becomes bored with repetitive actions.

** If you would like to delay your climax and extend the oral play, then take a break and do other things then come back to it and so on. This will also greatly increase your ardor, anticipation, and tension.

The key to getting you off is that when one or the other of you are ready for the finale, she should combine oral and stroking for a dynamic duo. Why? Because while it is possible to achieve an orgasm from oral stimulation alone, it is also not unusual to need more dedicated and specific stimulation that mimics what we do when we masturbate. Combine stroking with oral and you have a much more powerful outcum (pun if any, indended).

Once again, I ask you to think about it. When all of us (male and female) learn to masturbate, we quickly develop a pattern of rhythms, temp, and pressures that are unique and specific to each one of us. If we are off the mark even a little bit, either the orgasm will not happen or if it does it isn't quite what we had in mind.

So, what has to happen whether you want to combine manual stimulation with oral or just get off by her hand is to teach her how you do it when alone. I recommend demonstrating how you masturbate so she can visualize the procedure, then to guide her movements by taking her hand hand in yours a few times so she learns to mimic your specific movements and pressures.

You also have one or more hotspots that she can finger. Whether you have one, two, or more, the absolute hottest of the hot is the Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). Rub a finger along it and you are pretty much guaranteed to climax immediately, if not sooner. One or more other hotspots can often be found distributed around the Corona rim. She should have fun finding them and using them; or, simply point them out to her.

Lastly, the same recommendations hold true in reverse, for you with her. Ask her to demonstrate how she masturbates and then have her guide your fingers a few times so that you can learn to duplicate her method.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Thanks, dancingdoc2!

I don't mean to be hard on any I'maguy or any other guy reading this, but a lot of guys apparently think we can give bj's into eternity. I'm not wonderwoman, after a while my jaw gets really sore, my neck starts aching, etc. Sometimes I hear the refrain "Keep going, keep going, I'm just about to...", and it irritates me. I really want to say, "I know but my jaw's about to pop", but in reality most of the times I keep on going, though my teeth tend to graze him (accidentally, of course), because my jaw's tired. I think they might gain a little perspective if they ever had to give one.:)

Thanks annabegins and dancingdoc. Since I'm new here I didn't want to be the one to point out that it's boring and exhausting as well as unpleasant to the olfactory system. So many on this site seem to be so totally PRO oral sex that I hesitated to be the lone dissenter. If others find it pleasurable, FINE. But, I think that quite a few people probably don't--even though it's not supposed to be taboo anymore. The main thing is that one shouldn't feel that one has to do what one doesn't enjoy doing. Besides, for me, I have TMJ.

There's a lot of advice about asking for what you WANT. It works the other way, as well. Anyone should be able to say what they DON"T want. I had a friend who almost broke her engagement over the fellatio issue. They went to a therapist to work it out.

You sound hard to please, then again your GF can also work you up, excite you more, tease you till you cant take it any longer. My GF is a huge tease "i mean really HUGE" after touching some vital areas, kissing some sweet spots and then going down on me i cum like the guy in the movie "American Pie" once, she got me to cum in +- 3seconds of going down on me...

Mwa* love you baby :-)

lol. good luck. and try be a bit more conciderate hey.

I would say lasting 1 minute is better than lasting 10 min.
I personally am not able to get my b/f off orally on a regular basis. Sometimes, it just takes awhile and by then I am dieing lol.
For me, oral sex is usually just a teaser for sex...in both directions.
If he's giving me oral, I usually dont want to come that way.... I would rather him get me real worked up... then do me lol.

> So, next time I'll just keep that little fact in mind, and all will be well.

Good! Please keep in mind also what I said about prolonging the inevitable by building up your ardor, tension, and anticipation, orally and/or manually then pausing for a few moments until the sense of urgency subsides and then repeating two or three more times. Also, during the pauses, she can be doing other things to maintain the excitement giving her mouth, fist, and your penis a rest. Doing these things will intensify your resulting climax by several orders of magnetude.