[FONT="Courier New"]so i have a problem that i have no idea if its normal or not. i have been active for a while now and love everything about sex... except for the fact when it comes to the actual intercourse itself. dont get me wrong i love the whole foreplay leading up to it all different types of positions and love being close with my parent when having sex but the thing is .... when im having sex with my guy its more painful than pleasureful... not to mention getting oral is a bigger turn on to me that sex itself.... is that weird??? that i get more turned on to the fact tha my guy is down there pleasing me in more ways that one but when it comes to having sex i can still turn him on and give him his... but im more turned off because its painful??? :confused: :confused: [/FONT]
Sun, 03/29/2009 - 23:40
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ORAL only??
[QUOTE=0609jesse;235811][FONT="Courier New"> dont get me wrong i love the whole foreplay leading up to it all different types of positions and love being close with my parent when having sex but the thing is .... when im having sex with my guy its more painful than pleasureful... [/FONT][/QUOTE]
Im Confused .... Your Parent?
my partner... my bad.
All women should have a gyn exam before becoming sexually active. It is time. You need to eliminate physical issues before getting in to other issues. Explain this issue to the doctor.
ive been to the gyn way b4 becoming sexually active there isnt ne thing physically wrong with me..
Nothing weird about you; not normal to have the pain. About half of us require stimulation in addition to penetration and thrusting to achieve orgasm, so the need for oral is not unusual. The continuing pain is not normal and should not be.
It could be a lack of natural lubrication (add some K-Y) or it could be positional. The latter requires some experimentation to see what works for your particular matchup.
As a dude I enjoy giving or receiving oral way more than fucking. I was introduced to oral quite young. Not only that but my first girlfriend had a developmental problem of her vagina and I couldn't penetrate her. It really pulled a psych job me because I thought that there was something wrong with me. She eventually had it surgically corrected but it was well after our relationship ended and she never could have children of her own. I felt so bad because I truly loved this girl and wanted to make love to her, marry and have kids. As it turned out all we could ever do together was oral. I believe that it left a psychological impact on me because for a long while afterward I couldn't make love to any of my girls without difficulty. I'm over all that now but oral is still truly my first love.
[QUOTE=Brandye;235838]Nothing weird about you; not normal to have the pain. About half of us require stimulation in addition to penetration and thrusting to achieve orgasm, so the need for oral is not unusual. The continuing pain is not normal and should not be.
It could be a lack of natural lubrication (add some K-Y) or it could be positional. The latter requires some experimentation to see what works for your particular matchup.[/QUOTE]
that rele is big help acutally it makes alot of sense bc wit the one guy that i had the problems with i wasnt rele lubricated that much.... also do u think its possible the size of his penis would have to do with any of it??? i have been active for a while but for a breif period when i was single obviously i wasnt having sex... and no foreplay with any guy because i was too involved with being single for a while not having the "connection" with a guy... and when we had started everything i never wanted him to finger me bc his hands were always dirty & when he works with cars all day its hard for them to ever come clean. so we kinda just went into the sex ... as far as any thing goes for hands... oral was a given on both our ends and i would give him hand jobs but for as long as he tried i would never let him finger me... and then we sorta went into sex. and i have to say he is alot thinker than the other guys ive been with.
Could be. 95% of all vaginas comfortably accommodate 95% of all penis. Some women complain of their partner's size but then it amounts to the same adjustments - position, lubrication and whether or not you really want to be having sex.
hmmm interesting thing to know. very helpful. thanks
It rarely has anything to do with his size - and everything to do with his SKILL.