I think you need to sit down and ask her this question yourself and see what her answers are.

Nice picture!~

Your questions are far from dumb. They go to the heart of what we address here in one form or another quite often.

> she dose it to me but not for her.

My guess is that your girlfriend has two issue that have to be addressed. First, might be her immaturity when it comes to things sexual including how she thinks of her body; second, that all there is to sex past a few kisses is intercourse. If you have read any of my Sticky posts on the matter, you know this is just upside down and backwards. If you have not read these relevant Sticky posts, I recommend that the two of you do so.

Two of the important facts that your girlfriend must understand are that she will require a certain amount of fingering for two reasons; first, to become sufficiently aroused; second, to achieve an orgasm using most positions.

If all you two are doing right now is Foreplay, how does she believe she will achieve an orgasm, if not from fingering and/or oral? It may be that she has yet to learn how to climax. This is often the case with teens and young adults. Girls learn later than boys and often not at all. This is something you need to talk to her about. If true, I have a Sticky on this matter, also, that she should read (and you can too, just FYI). If this is indeed the case, you have to understand that each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms. We do not give them away to each other. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them. So, if she has yet to learn how to reach a climax, she needs to learn before you can hope to get her there.

> Is she grossed out by her own vagina?

Probably not the "vagina" as much as the vulva which is the name for all her pieces-parts down there. My guess is that she is just shy, and this goes to the issue of maturity mentioned, above. You might ask her why it is OK for her to pleasure you manually and orally, yet not let you reciprocate. Be concerned yet kind when you inquire.

I have a similar problem... except we have had sex before many times... weve been going out for about a year now... she lets me finger her, she gives me a handjob and goes down on me... but she wont let me go down on her... i figured shes just not comfortable yet, and shed let me go down on her in time.... but if theres some other way maybe?

This may sound off-- But maybe some girls just don't like oral?

rape her :) kidding on but those guys advice is good
anyhoo i was wondering whats a climax lol stupid i know but hey ?

[QUOTE=guyguyguy;173774]rape her :) kidding on but those guys advice is good
anyhoo i was wondering whats a climax lol stupid i know but hey ?[/QUOTE]

I'd recommend in the future not even kidding about that... its horribly inappropriate and sexist and even in joking form perpetuates societal attitudes regarding women, sex, and rape. Sorry, I just had to comment on this.

My girlfriend was the same way. It's because they're self-concious of their vagina(look, smell, taste.) So just keep reassuring her about it, that's what worked for me. I'm pretty sure all girls are like that, untill of course they actually get it. Than they love it and will force you to do it!

> i was wondering whats a climax

At thirteen you may not yet be sufficiently into puberty to know all about masturbation, regardless of whether you play with yourself yet or not. If you do not yet masturbate through to a climax whether semen is ejaculated or not, you will have to wait a few months in order for your body to mature enough and before the hormones kick in driving you to discover this aspect of yourself.

A climax is the spontaneous release of pent up sexual tension and muscle tension that then gives a scerene feeling of bliss, contentment, and well being.

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;173831]> i was wondering whats a climax

At thirteen you may not yet be sufficiently into puberty to know all about masturbation, regardless of whether you play with yourself yet or not. If you do not yet masturbate through to a climax whether semen is ejaculated or not, you will have to wait a few months in order for your body to mature enough and before the hormones kick in driving you to discover this aspect of yourself.
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...lmao...

Nothing funny about that....especially since YOU were the ones asking what a climax is?!?

Climax=orgasm

hm I have a similar problem she didn't mind giving me a blow kjob but was self concious about me seeing her vulva

i was the same way.

Sounds like she is still too young and immature for sexual relationship.

> Climax=orgasm

Geez, did I ever miss the simplicity of his question.

Is just a matter of insecurity... we' girls are too worried about if you guys will like the smell, taste, and view of something as private as that :O is normal for her to feel that way... (: just be patient

i hate my vagina, but i love oral, i hated it at first, but when you get passed that barrier i bet she'll love it. i hate touching myself but my bf has eased me into masturbating infront of him. its really up to her when and if she wants it

well see for me things have progressed she now lets me see it and even asked me to try oral, it just takes time she will come round, getting her onto this site might help as well