I always give my girl head because i know she likes it, it doesn't taste fantastic or anything, but i like the sensation it gives her. The problem is she rarley gives me oral...and when she does i feel like she's not doing it because she really wants to or wants to make me feel good, she's just doing it to be pollite or something...and she usually just ends up giving me a hand job, or i end up doing it myself, and it's rather upsetting, because i really like getting head.
help, suggestions, input?
anyone?
For most young women, the thought of taking a penis into the mouth is not pleasant. It is a learned skill overcoming mental barriers (it is dirty!) and bad taste and nasty consistency. Many women overcome this; many do not. Most prostitutes will tell you wives unwilling keep the prostitutes in business.
Talk about it. Have her read up on it. The first time I did it, I thought I had been poisoned - coughed, gagged, the whole bit. She can learn - if she wants to. If she does not want to, nothing will change that.
I agree, talking (though don't sound like you're issuing orders!) and asking her are the way to go. You could suggest watching an erotic movie together (she might want to try the things she sees) that way she can still feel that she is in control and not being coerced into things she doesn't want to do (or doing them simply because she is afraid she is insufficiant)
My Fiancee was quite basic in her approach to sex (though she is an excellent lover), but I have helped her broaden her horizons as much for her own pleasure as mine and get over any insecurities she might have (I wish she'd return the favour but she tells me she doesn't fantasise or even masturbate) You could ask your partner if you can do more for her too. Sex in my view is a lifelong journey of discovery. I'm always learning and have been since I was 13 years old (although I never practised anything till I met my Fiancee when I was 21! ) So I was the virgin leading!