My wife and i have been married for over 2 years and she has never given me oral, i've been OK with it i guess because she's always had a bad gag reflex. Recently she tried it on her own without encouragement from me, and it was phenomenol, aside from a slight graze of her teeth. I must say also that she is the type of person to get offended if i mention something like, "be careful with the teeth", and then just never do it again.
How can i make her feel comfortable enough to possibly take my suggestions?
Calming
If that was her first time it was probably an accident. If she grazes you again say "ouch" or something. She will get the hint. Remember to tell her how great it was.
If it was the first time for your wife, then she's feeling her way through it. Tell her what feels good. Ask her to do something a certain way. Open the lines of communication. And when you return the favor, be sure and ask her what she likes as well. Don't assume anything.
BTW, sexual talk doesn't have to be profane. Gentle assurances and suggestions can be a great turn on for both partners.
yes, exactly.. say things like 'that's good right there' or 'just a bit harder/faster/stronger' etc etc so sort of hint her in the direction and then comment on her if she does good. for example 'faster' she speeds up n u say 'yeh, that feels good' or 'yeh thats the spot' or something similar so she feels that you were giving her a hint then complimenting on the correction.