first off welcome to the forum holly. if you want to get a general idea of how to give a blow job to a guy go to the pleasing him section in the forum. also you can go to the main site and look up oral sex on the left hand side and then fellatio.

now can you explain why you can't seem to really want to preform oral sex on him. do you think it will smell bad? if so both of you could take a shower together. or are you concerned about cum in your mouth? if that is the case just tell him that you aren't ready for that yet and to give a warning before he will cum.

don't be insecure because you haven't done this before. everyone is a little anxious their first time. he will tell you what he likes, and what speed to go. if you two love each other that much then he will be glad to teach you. hope this eases your mind.:)

Lol after my fitness rant I came into this thread thinking it was about oral steroids hahaah.

Ill let doc post the links but a quick search would yield faster results. (Just an fyi)

One thing I have always explained to my gf's (or the ones who didn't believe head was a "proper" thing...yet eat them out was important...makes no sense lol) was that your doing something that will make your man drool. You love turning him on right? It turns you on knowing that while having sex, something so simple looking as your vagina can bring him to some of the most powerful orgasms he can have (hand just doesn't compare). Makes you feel kinda powerful when you look at it that way right? You make him hard with your naked body, it turns him into this carnal beast fueled by lust fo YOU.

Now imagine the power you would have if you gave him head. Your able to kiss, sucks, lick, deepthroat, combine your hands, massage, lick, kiss his balls, tease his inner thigh. All these crazy feelings that normally can't be accomplished with a vagina (certain moves with your hands and such you can but that's not the point). You can bring him to the edge and easily remove your mouth and tease him, forcing him to beg, you can stare up at him seductively, and watch his face as he feels torn between wanting to orgasm and wanting it to last forever. When your sitting at dinner talking to him you'll notice his eyes glance at your lips and you just know what he's thinking about. You don't even need to be doing something sexual and you turn him on. Licking your lips while out in public, even something innocent looking will catch his eye and drive him wild all day until you get home. Suddenly you holding all the cards in the bedroom. He wants a blowjob, then he has to work for it, go down on you till your satisfied then drive him wild (return the favor though don't be cruel). Sometimes you just surprise him. Why? Because with as much as it turns him on you will find it begins to drive you just as crazy.

Now this may all seem stupid but really think about it, most of the girls I tell this too wind up realizing that its true. It really gives them a sense of power and accomplishment. Suddenly their sex life takes a change for the better.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating, Holly. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.

> I cant bring myself to give him a blow job. I don't know what it is but I just can't, can anyone help me?

Your concern is brought up from time to time so this is nothing new. More often than not after thinking about the "why" the reason comes down to thinking that his genitals are dirty (read: unclean). This can certainly be true if the two of you begin making out after a long day and not taking a shower/bath, first. I recommend that both of you wash beforehand, either showering together, or separately, then meeting in your "love nest". (At the very least, each of you should take a few minutes to freshen up with a washcloth and soap.)

Once in a while women express a concern that urine is somehow unhealthy. This is only true if the man has an infection, otherwise, urine is in fact healthy and has been known to keep people alive and hydrated who have become stranded on a desert island or similar. If this is something that is bothering you, consider that the chance of getting any meaningful amount is slim to none, particularly when you understand that there is a valve in the urethra that closes off the bladder when a man has become aroused, and, that precum cleanses the urethra.

If the look of a penis bothers you, close your eyes, and smile so that he can see that smile. My other answer to this concern is that when a man or woman falls in love with someone s/he accepts all of that person including the parts as yet unseen.

> I need advice and tips because it will be my first time giving anyone a blow job and my boyfriend is really experienced and I feel as though I wont be as good as his past girlfriends.

Here are the articles that you need to read:

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Next: If you are new & have no experience (Pt. 2 of HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED!:
If you are a guy who happens to be shy or uncertain about making the first move, know that this is OK. My suggestion is:
(Part 2 of Chapter 5)

As for not knowing how to stimulate his genitals by mouth and/or hand {Foreplay), do not be concerned. These techniques are learned just like learning to ride a bicycle, not innate.

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Holly, I recommend that you read each of the articles listed in the Index. In fact, invite your boyfriend to do so, also, then discuss what you have read and add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering.

Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. Please read about the importance of communication and providing feedback to each other.

I hope this is help. Got questions?

-doc