Hello! I have been married for almost 2 years and my wife still will not let me perform oral sex to her. She says that it's not going to feel good but yet she's never had it done to her before. Any suggestions?
Thu, 06/03/2010 - 21:49
#1
Oral...
how about u suggest the idea
then see if shes up to experimenting
and that if she doesnt like it you will stop immediatley
just take it slow with her and be patient with her
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One of two situations may be the matter; first, that being stimulated orally is disgusting to her sense of right or wrong when it comes to "approved" things to do and she is using that reason as an excuse; second, that she has perhaps heard others discuss the matter in a negative vain, or, that she has some notion that it simply won't feel good for some notion she has.
As for the latter, doesn't she understand that stimulating each other orally is an extremely popular activity among people in all corners of the world? If it was somehow distasteful to one's sensibilities, moral code, or, religious teaching, then why does this activity remain so popular with both men and women? Why is the activity discussed so positively?
Please read the article that discusses the subject. Also, wait to perform any oral stimulation and/or fingering until she has been brought to a high state of arousal and readiness beforehand. With her level of arousal at or very near peak, her inhibitions will be low, and if you approach her vulva in a round about fashion, indirectly, and not going straight for the genitals, you stand a much better chance of not getting pushed away or stopped. Learn more about making out procedurally as covered in one or more articles by starting at "A", adding "B", going back to "A", adding "C" and so on and on. When it comes to the erogenous zones, approach the breasts and genitals indirectly at first.