My first time was actually more comfortable than i imagined, i only spotted (blood-wise) i felt a little discomfort after wards but i think because we messed around so much leading up to it, it wasn't painful when it happened. so i've had a few more sexual experiences since then (last year) and i don't think i've had an orgasm. i feel like if i had, i would've known. Everything else seems to go right and the partners i've had they all came but i didn't. i'm just wondering if it's because i'm not being pleased or i'm not used to it or comfortable.... that for me is the only frustrating thing because everything else seems to go so well. my comfort level seems compatable w/ my experience level (i think) i'm very open minded and comfortable w/ most anything but i cannot orgasm. Even with the man i fell in love with, i can't. any advice?