Hmm, I'm just curious. How do you guys all really start to open up to your partner, does it usally take you a bit? a few months or more? and do you just come out and say it? also.. does it help to just DO what you feel? and talk about it after/later or while? or... 
also what are some fetishs you guys have?
Thu, 10/09/2003 - 21:22
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Opening up to your girl
A gut feeling eh? hmm... so if i feel the urge to say something just comment and talk about it with him? Guy's don't mind you just talking openly? about it? he is a newbie... so i wouldn't want him to feel... defeated.. or whatever.. so also for "movement". does it help to just direct and guide to what you "feel" or whatever, and if its too much kinda just.. gently push them away? then guide them back to a better..."movement"? , see we are rather new ... but I'm getting to the point where i want him to just TELL me up front, what he wants.. and we can work on it? so just up and say it eh?
Jamier. THank you for your posts!!
Opening up to your partner is always a "gut" feeling. Of course, this dpends on what it is you want to discuss. Communicating what you like and don't like in bed is CRUCIAL to start early. Make sure when you do it's in the spirit of fun and sharing, not complaining or comparing! The last thing u want to do is say, "I wish you could suck cock like my last girlfriend" thats a sure-fire way of NOT getting anything from her for a while!
Be tactful, be creative. Say you're watching a porno, or an R rated movie and u see something being done that you DO like, you can say, "I love the way that feels," or "God, having sex outdoors, " DO NOT SAY "Why won't you f*** me outside like i want."
Now, if u have other fetishs (cross dressing, bd/sm, foot fetish, etc.) thats something you need to be alot more tacful about. And, you need to really examine how IMPORTANT that fetish is to you. Be honest - if you want to have her suck your toes during sex and that important to your sexual happiness, tell her very soon on. Fetish and fantasy are close sisters, you need to know yourself very well before you make either demands or statments to a new lover!
Hope this helps!
I got a FootFetish.
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