I was 19 when I lost mine.

You're ready to have sex when you're ready to accept the fact that you need to get protection and you need to be safe. You need to be ready for all of the emotional stuff that goes along with it. You need to be ready to accept the fact that she could get pregnant. If you're ready for all of that, then you're ready.

I bet you will not feel so alone when one of your friends comes crying to you at school one day to tell you she's pregnant. You'll be real glad you're a virgin then!

You'll know when you're ready. Let your first time be memorable and right. Trust me, you'll just know!

It sometimes seems like you are the only one, I agree. You looking around at all your friends and know that the majority of them are having sex. But you really aren't there's loads of us out there. People are just afriad to admit it incase they're labeled "uncool". I'm still a virgin too, just wait until it feels right for you

i bet half the people around you are lying- be proud of your virginity and wait until you feel its right before loosing it

I was a virgin till I was 22. I lost it a month before I turned 23.

You ain't the only one. I was a virgin during high school as well, and was damn proud of it. I think you should wait until it feels completely right. Get your education first, find a guy you trully love and trust and be able to support a baby if it happens. Sex is ot a no strings attached thing, it carries a lot of responsibilities. I do not think that a high schooler is ready for those responsibilities.

i am still a virgin at 17 and i had it in high school but i ignored hem and i am glad i have because i have met the right girl for me

do not give in to peer pressure. it is not worth it. wait until after high school and you are settled in a place of your own with a job. By that time you will know if and when you are ready and be a probable parent if you have unprotected sex. Until then your 1st time should be memorable because you were not pressured into it.
i never gave into peer pressure and still am virgin at 40. found myself someone who is virgin also. but i am willing to wait for her when the time is right.

DONT STRESS IT MAN MY FIRST TIME I GOT AN ERRECTION AND WHEN IT WAS TIME TO DO IT IT JUST WENT DOWN AND I MEAN I WAS NERVOUS ITS PERFECTLY NORMAL TO BE A LIL NERVOUS BECAUSE I MEAN ITS SOMETHING TO BE NEW AT. I AINT LOSE IT TO PEER PRESSURE I LOST IT THINKING I WAS GONNA BE THE MAN BUT I MEAN ITS NOT THE SAME CUZ I LOST IT TO SOME REGULAR GURL IN THE STREETS WHICH WAS A ONE DAY THING. I MEAN DONT DO IT IF U DONT THINK U READY BUT BETTER BE SURE OF WHO U DOING AND WHAT U DOING BEFORE YOU DO IT.

One of my favorite things to do is to get the conversation turned to "my first time". Where I've worked in a large industrial environment you would be assigned to various work gangs and as they were mostly male.....it is a favoite discussion with some laughter involved for everyone. Sure everyone likes to talk about themself too.

I've listened to many guys stories, from the crane opperator who traded a little girl a ride on his Schwinn Stingray bicycle she wanted so badly for sex & a BJ, to a guy who at 12 had a
menage a trois(3 way) with his sitter and her girl friend 14 who came over...so he would always ask for her to be his sitter. Yes there is lots of reasons to wait till you can have what you want...or live with circumstances gives you. I guess I was lucky to hold for my ideal and had a wonderful couple years with the same girl who shared so much with me
and taught me everything I knew about sex then. A most beautiful time in my life.

I waited a bit sure...had chances much earler....but waited and I'll say good things come to those who wait. Had I became sexually active at 14(my first chance) I would have had all her g/f involved and been the talk of the neighborhood and in trouble in time. Had I taken another opportunity later her dad may have tried to kill me like another guy he almost killed. Had I done it in my first car...or on the ground on a blanket it just wouldn't have been much more than a few sexual forays. (like so many of my pals in my immediate group did).

When you wait till you're out of school and people start getting their own places and you don't have to be home every night....and you have some privacy and time to get into sex with your partner it gets better. There is nothing like spending a rainy fall saturday afternoon in bed with your lover enjoying every position, and kind of sex together. Where neither of you have to worry about a phone ringing, knocks at the door, people in the next appartment listening thru the walls etc. Where you don't have to feel like guilty little children doing what you aren't supposed to be doing. Then it gets better with time and experience as a young adult.

I've spent lost weekends with girlfriends having sex stopping only long enough to sleep, eat, and shower etc. Ah to be 27 again. LOL I'm glad I didn't play cat and mouse with sex in school days where the teachers, their snitches, parents etc had their noses in every move I made especially sexual ones.

In the end it is your choice. If you let your peer group pull you strings you are more likely to have a bad experience, as they may use you for their guinea pig, and learn from your mistakes. Sex is a personal thing and I would suggest you move into it slowly and easily until with someone you feel
secure with. (and the person you feel secure with is the the hardest part...the sex is much easier)

eDJ

Hi lizardsmoker420 and welcome.

Trust me... you are NOT the only one. There are many people who don't lose their virginity until after high school. This is nothing to be ashamed of. Wait until YOU feel it's the right time. You are the one who has to live with the decision and its' consequences.

The right time will come... when you know that the other person loves you and you love them. AND you know that you can deal with any negative effects... (emotional, pregnancy, or STD). Then you might start thinking of having sex.

It's your decision. Make it wisely.

If you don't know you're ready, then you're not ready.

Don't rush into it.
Be proud of who you are. Don't let people pressure you.
If you give in, you may regret it later on.

hmmmm sounds like a typical peer-pressure situation.

Thing is your most likely not the only virgin and you should never feel pressured into sex.

I know you most likely have urges but you may also regret 'leaping before you looked', so to speak and it may be best for you to find someone you feel comfortable with in a relationship.

That said the end decision is yours.

Hope this has helped...