i use to have sex back with my ex girlfriend for an average of let's say 20 minutes*not long, but not that short* using only missionary, her on top, and doggy a bit'
now i have a new gf, and we have had sex three, without condoms* i know stupid me!* but the first time my penis didnt get hard :(--> so can anyone help me with that or explain to me that?
than, two days after it get hard but i was only able to last 5 minutes:(
and the other day we had sex, and i cum in 5 minutes :(
im about to be 18 and i got maybe around a 5 inch penis.. i dont know why im lasting less with this chick, so can anyone help me understand why im lasting less or maybe explain to me how i can last more, thank you =)
*additional: for some reason i really like doggy but i cum really quick and i really dont want that, so can anyone help me with that, thanks*
In a survey of women asking, :How long did your last sexual encounter last?," the responses ran from three minutes to thirteen minutes. Sounds as though you are in the normal range.
Mt guess for why it is faster with this woman is that your parts fit together in such a way as to bring more pressure on the magic parts - like her narrowest is right on your corona or some such.
If you get her off first, then you do not have to worry about lasting abd, besides, there is always the encore - just keep going.
Okay - again - with each new partner the sex will be different/worse until you two get comfy with eachother and know what the other likes.
So YES you're going to not get hard, not last as long, yadda yadda yadda with the new girlfriend and almost EVERYONE comes faster when coming in from behind her - friction you know - which might be why some women say they like it so much. (evil grin)
i have found sometimes if shes not that wet or the female is tight can make a difference with sex to only lasting so long to cum/
It doesnt help if your looking forward to it or excited to see her which will make you cum fast, I know when an ex girlfriend surprised me with having sex i would last alot longer then if i knew we were going to do it.
when your on top of her, missionary lean over on top of her and try to move your stomach and leg muscles around to slow it down a little. the angle of doing it will control some of it.
I have had sex and lasted about 45 minutes a number of times with an ex girlfriend, a few times we were both worn out that i didnt cum at all, she did orgasm a fair bit
Your sexual performance is linked to a lot more than you think. Any type of stress that you may not even be thinking about, could effect your performance, even at 17. Maybe even because this is a new experience for you (new girl), you could be stressing about how you look or perform. These things affect how erect you get. Best solution to not getting hard, is not think so hard! Make sure you have a lot of foreplay too, the more excitement you get leading up to sex can really set the stage for intercourse.
As far as going in 5 minutes, well nothing is wrong with that unless she isn't having an orgasm within that time frame. Always satisfy the woman first! Just the other night my wife and I had sex for the first time in like 2 weeks (my job kept me away) and I was horny as anything. She said she wanted to have multiple orgasms. Well, being that we hadn't had sex in awhile, I was horny as hell and I knew that once I had an orgasm, I would need some recovery time. So I decided to please her until she was satisfied, than finish for myself. I probably could have cum within the first 5 minutes, but I've learned to control myself and I've gotten much better as a lover. So I gave her 3 orgasms and then we shared a 4th one together.
Making love is all about the connection and the OTHER lover. In other words, take care of HER before yourself. You're young, so its hard to control your orgasm. Practice getting yourself very close to coming by masturbation, and then just before you lose control, STOP and think of something stupid, like race cars or a video game or something. Once you back off from orgasm, start going again. Repeat what works when you're having sex with her!
Plain and simple.....you probably still have feelings for the ex-gf......then there is the pressure of being with someone that you're not use to.....then there are thoughts of "I have to prove myself to be a good lover".....etc......there could be alot of things going on in your head......you just need to relax!!! and cumming in 5mins...well if you haven't had sex in awhile, then expect not to be able to hold on for a long time.....even if you masturbated daily because a vagina is far more different than your hand.......tip of the day: if you are worried about cumming too fast, right before you know that you are going to have sex, masturbate and get yourself off, take a shower, then see how it goes
oh and 20mins is more than enough time.....sex with me and my wife can last from 1 to 2 hrs, but intercourse only last between 15-40mins and it's always great and she's always satisfied.....it's like i always say to her "I only need 15mins of bumpin and grindin to prove my point"........and believe me, I do