ok idk if anyone else has ever had this problem with their guy but i'm a little bit of a nympho and usualy my man is to but lately if we have sex in the morning or sometime in the midddle of the day, when night time comes its just hit the sack and snore. I've gained about 4 plbs and idk if thats it but its just like he doesnt find me attractive anymore:confused: he says thats not it but i'm not sure I believe him. My profile pic was taken about a week ago, and the other pic was taken before a gained a lil bit of weight, is there really that big a difference? Is there something wrong with me now or something like that? Like I said before about a month ago (when I gained about 4 plbs) we were having sex 3-5 times a day and now he's turned into one shot and thats it. Is he bored with me? Or has anyone else ever had this problem?
Fri, 01/09/2009 - 18:37
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one shot wonder
OMG girl get your head screwed on straight.
4plbs? cant see a thing, your beautiful.
My bf is the same, most the time he wants it just as much as me, but every now and then doesnt want it that much, maybe its cuz they need a break, but you have to take into account everything else that is going on in his life. He might be stressed.
The best thing to do is just talk to him about it him, im sure he would understand and reassure you.
3-5 a day is pretty much the similar as me and my bf, every now and then he just needs some time to recuperate and do other things lol
I didnt think there was that big a difference lol but its just like usualy when I do my exercises he used to sit there and drool basically and now its like he doesnt even notice so I wasnt sure... I know its kinda dumb but I just couldnt think of any other reasons. When I talked to him he just gets annoyed, if he is stressing about something he's not letting me in on it.. I wish he would
Men are kinda annoying like that.
And after a while they usually dont pay as much attention. its just how it is.
Just sit him down and tell him straight up you wanna talk about something.
Please, 4 pounds? PFFFT! Quit worrying about that.
Men are not machines! Yes, I know they like to think of themselves as Great Big He-Men but naaaah. He will have his moments just like you do. No big deal and nothing to really worry about either.
I know like I said i didnt think the 4plb was a big deal you know but i've just never had a guy randomly not like having sex it has just thrown me for a loop I guess
Something else is probably bothering him. I don't know either of you, but outside factors can influence a guy. Work, his family or friends, or maybe even depression could be weighing on his mind. Cut him some slack, show him you're happy and you love him and maybe things will change.
I try to and I know its not that he's not into us anymore its just i think maybe he's bored with our sex life, and maybe he is stressing, I know our knew house is putting some stress on him but it didnt seem to be that big of a deal idk maybe.
Okay now is the time to begin treating him as an adult. If he doesn't want to - fine. Accept that he's in a mood or something. Ask him once if there's something bothering him. If yes, good. If he doesn't want to talk - do NOT keep asking him. Respect him enough to let him make his own decisions. If you want something from him and he's not willing/able - negotiate or accept. No nagging, No worrying. No pestering. No begging. No pleading. No yelling at the top of your lungs at him. Etc.
Say it once. Ask it once.
And no arguments or fights. Discuss issues without emotion and/or blame adult to adult.
And no expecting him to read your mind or your mood.
maybe he's tired from whatever is filling his days?
i dunno if you should worry too much about gaining 4lbs. although i know most girls have about a 10lb ideal weight window, above which they don't look right and below which their boobs are suddenly a ton smaller, i dont think 4lbs is the reason.
OMG girls you are insultin us mens :P
callin us annoyin lol
Bad Bad Bad ...n don't worry hun juss give him a bit ov time ,am shure he'll back there agin wiv all his romantic mood ....n btw womens too do that :) so don't say that juss mens r annoyin :P
Btw you look Gawjus :)