Well me and my gf have been having sex for a couple years now and I was averaged out to be 6-7" erect and average girth. She loved sex, her fav position was her on top since she could grind her clit on my body while penetrating. My problem is now, I seem to have hit a growth spirt and now sometimes am 8-9" erect which is weird because i thought guys were suppose to stop growing after 18 or so. I'm 20, nearly 21 so my question is since i've obviously grown is there any way or any suggestions someone might have so she can relove sex the way she used to? Without a slight pain here and there.
Sun, 03/23/2008 - 22:42
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For once my size is a problem..
Look at different positions. Best I can tell you, experiment, know what you are doing, and it does work out. We do adjust!
I understand and I meant to add, she does not favor hardly any positions except her on top or me, doggy here and there but not much beyond that. Because just about every other position we have tried hurts her one way or another.
[quote=Yariome;212523]I understand and I meant to add, she does not favor hardly any positions except her on top or me, doggy here and there but not much beyond that. Because just about every other position we have tried hurts her one way or another.[/quote]Be certain you are rubbing the right parts of her, post. fornix, or the gspot, or be sure she is really worked up. Positions which have deeper penetration you may need to avoid. She may have to try some changes to stop the discomfort. If it continues she should see her doc.
Right, I still have a fairly good idea of where i'm moving myself around inside of her. So she still gets some pleasure, but her orgasms aren't nearly as strong as when she used to be able to rub against me. And yeah i've suggested the doc but she hates the idea of it, besides wouldn't it be my thing since i've grown almost two inches?
It's not your thing, because there's nothing wrong with you. Post teen growth isn't that abnormal. I added about 1.5in of girth from 17-23. There's probably nothing wrong with her either, but 8-9 and average girth shouldn't be that much of an issue if you're accommodating with positions. I believe Sera mentioned that if it continues she should see her doc to make sure there's not something wrong with her deeper inside that's causing pain, or preventing natural elongation of the vagina when aroused. That is purely a guess on my part, as I don't have a vagina.
Possible problems:
You're hitting her cervix. That can be extremely painful for some women. My GF enjoys having her Posterior Fornix rubbed very near her cervix, so I have to be very careful not to shift my hips or let her writhe the wrong way.
You're at too much of an angle and if you are one to get rock hard, are poking and stretching her sideways rather than typical fluidly moving pressure.
Not enough foreplay. The more turned on she is, the longer she gets, the more lubrication she gets, and the more stress she can pleasurably endure.
Her orgasms probably aren't as strong because she's lacking clitoral stimulation and/or you used to be right on her posterior fornix when she was all the way down riding you and now you're not. Be very happy that she is capable of having vaginal orgasms, as this is less common and adds the potential for a much broader range of orgasms and pleasurable sexual activities in general without one partner feeling lacking. You can help solve this by having her or yourself place your hand there for added stimulation.
Try the spoon position or even the inverted doggy with you facing away from her and angling down. Both of these can require more length than the average joe and can be terrific at G spot stimulation. Also, as long as you're not too hard, you can try to have her put her legs together on her back and slide in and out on top of her, angling towards her posterior fornix. The friction and pressure of you against her inner thighs and upper labia can cause extra movement around her clit.
Good Luck, and for all you people who never seem to believe that it really is how you use it: happy now?
wasnt it brandye who said 95% of all vaginas can take 95% of all penis (or something like that?)
Yar not to put you down, because 8 inches is definitely admirable. But I dont think you fall into that 5 percent (unless you have the girth of a tree stump lol)
So perhaps its just that your girlfriend needs to get used to the new package. I mean mine found mine too long...only 6.5...and now she finds it perfect. Remember when you get a new car it takes a while to get used to the clutch.
I love the metaphor, makes plenty of sense. I suppose it is a matter of time and getting the hang of it if the problem persists I will get her to go to the doctor.
And I don't care that I am this big, nor anything of the above, I have always known girls to like bigger because the feel more "full" but as long as I can give my girl a good time I Don't care how big I am.
Now if only more men saw it your way Yar. You please your girlfriend with what you got, and you dont sweat the fact that "all woman want a yardstick" lol :rolleyes:
It could very well be that your penis is too big. I mean my girlfriend has trouble sometimes, I mean she gets aroused during foreplay...but it only gets you sooo far. ONce sex starts she hits a whole new stage of arousal.