I am in the second longest relationship I have ever been in, and enjoying every second we have together, whether sexual or not. However, a while ago we were having problems, he said he wasn't physically cheating on me, but he was "thinking" about another woman a lot. Then randomly one day he confessed his undying love for me. Recently he has been getting moody, saying I doubt him too much, and trying to pin everything on me. Almost like he is feeling guilty. Whenever we have sex he stops mid-way and says he doesn't feel well (unless I'm on top of course) which it seems to me, he's getting "sick" a lot. Is this guilt? Should I be worried about another girl again? What does this mean? Or is he really getting sick you think?
Fri, 05/11/2007 - 01:55
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Once a cheater.....
Sounds to me if the ups and downs of the relationship is just too much. Sick during sex? Good excuse. I really think you need to seriously stand back and ask is the WHOLE relationship making you happy, forget the nonsense about anyone else, just look at the big picture. His lack of communication would drive me insane...
His hot/cold behavior in a relationship now will become irrational later as time goes on. Sounds as if he has his own issues.
Any man who behaves this way is NOT a good mate. Drop him.
I think that you need to stop having sex with him that "sick" thing he is doing sounds like bs. 1st of all, because if he is cheating on you, you don't want to get anything from the other girl. 2nd just take a break, even if you really love him, you don't want him to break your heart, if he decides to do something with someone else. If he come back together still madly in love then it was meant to be if not then it wasn't
hope this helps:o
The relationship is dead; cut your losses and move on.
well if he had the guts to confess to you that he was thinking about another woman and yet still confesses his love for you and stops durring sex, then there is obviously something bothering him. my advice would be to just simply try to talk to him, ask him what's on his mind or if anything's troubling him. if you truly love him then just have some patience and keep trying to talk to him but don't pressure him into telling you everything. the way i see it, it seems that he does love you and the thought of another woman in his head troubles him so he is unsure of what to do about it and just doesn't feel right about it, so just try to get him to talk about it and unless his "thoughts" have turned into actions then you should be good
so i hope that helped, and the best of luck to you :)