My boyfriend & I have been ready for sex for a couple of months now and have been trying and trying over and over again. Our problem is that we can't get his penis in my vagina. We don't know how to get it in. Yeah, we know how to have sex and how to give manual & oral sex. We build our way up into sex by manual or oral or both sometimes so it's not like we don't plunge into it. We're just so confused and why it won't go in!!
PLEASE HELP! Sorry if someone has posted this before and I haven't read. Thank you.
well lets see, some girls have tighter/smaller vaginas while some have wider ones. Guys size vary too. I suggest buying some type of lubricant if you are anything but driping wet. Then once you are both in the mood, start with fingering and trying to get up to two fingers side-by-side ( bowling-ball grip)
worst case senario is that you may have "vaginismus" which is a condition were the muscles around the vagina are contracted and making it amazingly tight. but even in that case "The process of curing vaginismus is usually a long one and will require patience, will power and determination. However, it is important to know that in 99% of cases, it can be successfully treated."
Yeah he always fingers me before we attempt. He uses 3 fingers and everything is fine. How exactly does he put his penis in??:confused: BLah! so confused!
maybe he is not hard enough when you try to have sex. it that's the case, it won't go in.
no... trust me. he's really hard & im wet. i dont get it. like i've asked before, HOW do you put it in?
Are you or he holding his penis and/or spreading your lips at all to help guide it in? Have you tried different positions? Missionary is actually one of the harder positions to orchestrate penetration.
oh yeah he would hold his penis but i didnt know/think about lips. thanks!
Look around for threads with the word "vaginismus." This is a much more common condition than most believe. Most women work their way through it but some really serious cases require therapy. Too many women give up and simply lead celibate lives.
Ignore the rest of the posts.