I have a few problems other than this which may be contributing, however I thought I might enquire about the numb feeling I get in my penis during sex.
I'm not sure if I have a problem that can be answered, however I'd like to at least 'get it off my chest'
During intercourse my penis occasionally feels completely numb. I know I'm thrusting but I can't really feel any stimulation, and I become quite bored sometimes. This is especially the case when I use a condom.
I have NEVER ejeculated from stimulation from a partner. I've been given fantastic head, and spent near an hour in intercourse before becoming exasperated. It seems the only way I can ejeculate is via masterbation, with my own hand.
Occasionally, I can't seem to keep my penis hard during intercourse. I'm still quite young (I thought this was something that happened to older people) and am worried this will make sex less plesurable for my partner.
Due to some problems with my frenulum I can't insert my penis into a 'dry' vagina. I'll try, feel the resistance then my penis will go softer and softer, thus making it harder.
My current sex partner and I spend a lot of time with foreplay, and masterbation, and occasionally oral sex. I'm concerned that if I can't deliver intercourse that she will become bored with me fingering her. I mean almost all sex is done involving intercourse. My inability to deliver intercourse also makes me feel weak in the bedroom.
I'm becoming increasingly irritated, frustrated, and worried about these problems, which I'm sure doesn't help, and how it might effect my relationship, and others later on.
Also is this true? Do womens bodies just turn off? Even if a woman wants to have sex their bodies just don't respond?
First, stop comparing yourself to the past. It's the past. It's over and done with.
You're with her now and not anybody else and that's all that matters.
So, I'll give you a new thought to play with.
Ok, so you seem to have a few problems keeping it up or orgasming. Just because you can't do that, it doesn't make you less of a man. It doesn't make you less of a partner.
And why is this?
It's because most women don't really get off on sex. Don't get me wrong. We like it. But it's really more of a man thing.
We however, get off on the foreplay. The kissing. The oral. The all sorts of things before "taking the plunge".
So, if you're good in that area, you're doing good.
Most men tend to forget that we need this stuff and just want to take the plunge.
Right now I'll just say keep up with the foreplay. Perfect that. And then, in the process, try to make yourself better down there.
Things take time. Remember that.
Thanks for your reply Muppet.
We have a lot of fun. We spend a lot of time in foreplay and she says she is enjoying herself.
I think that it may be psycological. Though I'm not exactly sure what. Sometimes I think I care too much about pleasuring my partner, thus inadvertantly preventing myself from orgasaming ...
My concern stems from her being significantly more experienced than I am. I sometimes worry that I'm not as good as one of her previous partners. I don't let these concerns effect my proformance, as that would just be mind bogglingly ironic. However I wonder occasionally that my in ability to deliver the occasional hard thrusting intercourse will make me dull in the bedroom. Is this justified?
I'm not looking for an ego boost, so be honest with your replies.
Danny
Women...we're ...different...at different times
I can honestly answer that Yes...sometimes our bodies turn off at times. I've been known to "dry" up even though I really want sex.
But you have to understand...Sex isn't just bout the physical...it IS...mental too.
Stimulate you and your partner's mind with images, erotica, playfulness...remember...sex is fun...or it should be. If you aren't having fun...you need to chill out.
If you make her feel desirable and she reciprocates with you...
Sometimes we can't help it...but as for your "numbness"....you might want to talk to your Dr. about it...don't be embarassed...it's natural to feel emb. about your body. ok..maybe not saying this right...*sorry*
The numbness could be a medical condition (DO NOT BE AFRAID to get help)...or it could be phsychological...and that's ok too.