I'm not all that happy with all of my body. Like most women there are parts I like and parts that I don't, because of this I never have sex in the nude. I ware lingerie often but always choose things that will cover my belly, and things that can stay on while I have sex. My b/f has never said anything about it, and all his favorite parts (breasts & bottom) are exposed. My question for you men out there is: Would you rather your partner be nude, and see every bump and bulge, or would you rather she cover her flaws? I have always assumed that seeing the bad will turn him off, so why not cover it up.
Fri, 06/08/2007 - 16:58
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Is nude always better???
ok im female but im still gonna post! im very self conscious about my body because im a bit chubby. But ive realised that no matter where the bump or bulge or curve is.. my boyfriend loves it.. when our relationship first went to the sexual stage - he made me get comfy by havin me walk around nude.. you should try it!! it helps!! it made me realise that although i see flaws in my body... he simply adores it and he loves it even more when i showed that i was comfortable being nude! so my advice to you is... dont be afraid of being nude - even if it means slowly slowly getting there... be comfortable with yourself and he will recognise ur confidence
nude is always better maybe if your too self conscious to do it you may not be close enough or comfortable enough to be doing it i think if you just do it you will feel very relieved because i gaurentee he wont care as i wouldnt either i love how my girlfriend is comfortable with me
no matter what you look like or more to the point how you look to yourself, if he has progressed to wanting a sexual relationship with you there is nothing, did you hear that NOTHING, better than for us men being able to see and take in your beauty in your naked form. It makes no difference if you have flaws, fat, or whatever we wouldn't be there if it mattered to us. So enjoy yourself and no he loves all of you including any flaws. Just my two cents
Is your avatar you??
I do it in the nude and my body is nothing close to yours lol.... I have a belly!!!
If you do feel uncomfortable with your body being nude maybe try getting "close" with your boyfriend in the dark and then when you become more comfortable turn the lights on. Me personally i don't mind when she has her clothes off. If he truly loves you he wont mind.
Yes, my avatar is me. You can see from that and my profile pic that I'm not fat, but we do have two kids and my belly has a lot of stretch marks. I work out all the time and I like the way I look. I just thought that if I have a flaw that can be covered, and not in any way inhibit the sexual process, why not cover it. I'm not sure though, if nude would be better for him. We have been together over ten years, so I'm sure he's not in awe every time we have sex, like when you first start dating someone, so it's a plausible thought that he might see more wrong than he used to. I guess I should have said all that in my original post.
Think of your "flaw" as a beauty mark, one from the wonderful kids you have. Why hide? He is with you and has seen you for 10 years!
go in the nude
I have marks left from my children. My husband thinks there beautiful.
My vote will be for nude
You're kidding right?! Honey, just get the clothes out! Come on!
And do it with all light! And lingerie! And let him take it out! And touch yourself saying "You want some of this?"
Right... Maybe I overdid that one...
nude he must know what your body will look like you can't hide everything under clothes so just take them off and make him feel special
Take it off. Seriously. Just get used to it, that way you can go whatever way you feel in the mood for.
My personal opinion? Quite frankly I like it both ways. Not to cover up any flaws but just because I like to leave the underwear on every once in a while. It's like a tease.
I'm going to sound very shallow here but quite frankly I've never been with any women who have had any "flaws". Nothing "serious" like a belly or stretch marks or anything but I certainly can't see it deterring me. When I'm having sex, the last thing I'm thinking about is a mole or stretch marks.
Besides, I'm a stomach man. God I love a woman's nice stomach. So my advice is to give it a shot.
I love my wife with every stretch mark and every flaw she has I don’t see her imperfections but rather someone who is stunning in my eyes, I am sure you don’t look at your B/F and see the flaws he has so why will he look at yours
The only time I'm not totally nude is if it's a quickie!
no clothes!!
I do find it much more enjoyable when in the nude because it means we can feel eachother to the full.
My girlfriend does like to cover up sometimes when she is having an 'off day' about her body, but if us guys truly love the girls we have, then we won't care about the imperfections atall, they will just add to the natural attractiveness of you.
as what is collectively considered beautiful is a one stereotype all girls can't be "this" beautiful but if the guy loves you he must find you beautiful for some special reason, else all girls would look alike and guys would love all the girls on earth what a sad arrangement there has to be some "imperfection" for things to work and us all be happy
I do like nude, it feels so much better. I am generally shy about my body, and like to have the ability to hide myself, such as the duvet to cover me once we have finished.
It feels much nicer to have my boyfriends chest on my chest skin to skin though, rather than having an item of clothing in the way.
I do tend to tease my boyfriend by leaving the underwear on for a while though, because then he feels more turned on when I eventually get naked.
At first there will always be that awkwardness with anyone and there body.
My girlfriend became more comfotable with her body before me. She was always naked and I just kept a shirt on because I didnt like my body as a whole, I always liked myself either with no shirt but with pants or a shirt and no pants. I always prefered to do it in the dark and thats when I first became fully naked. And then eventually I became more confident and now we take showers and things together in the nude.
There is no room for inhibitions in sex. Just take a deep breath and go for it!
It depends on the situation. for a quickie in a closet or parking lot or plane, take off only as much as you have to. In your home or apartment, no clothes, please. And it doesn't matter what you look like, because if you trust your partner you don't have to worry about what they say. My wife is really conscious of a couple of scars she has and thinks she's either too fat or too thing (never just right), but she knows I love her and ultimately the scars don't matter. And if we don't look our best, we joke about it and go on.
well we don't normally look at a persons body as a whole anyway when on the bed together your so close together that you can't see it all in one go
just get naked. if the person is comfortable enough with you to have sex with you, i dont think they're going to say anything negative about you. my girlfriend and i always do it naked
With most things, it's personal preference for the guy. I know me personally, I love for the girl to be completely naked. Sometimes it's nice when she switches it up and shows up or changes and waits for me to arrive and she has lingerie or tight clothes before shes ready to get busy. The only time where clothes may be a better option is like people said, a quickie. I remember one time we both kept our shirts on as we had a quickie during one of her 10 minute breaks in class because she wanted me to "get mine" after not getting it the night before when she got it twice. It was perfectly acceptable at the time because we both knew the intentions of the sex.
I love every inch of my wife whether firm or soft. I can't imagine a day without seeing her nude.
Give him a treat. GO NUDE.
girl, your missing out.. there is nothing better than feeling your naked body next to his and feeling him kiss your whole body.. the skin to skin contact is amazing, and just cuddling next to him naked is amazing also.. I always sleep naked and i would have it no other way... and hun, hes getting turned on by you hence the erection therefore he finds you beautiful.... I am sure he would love every part of you..
underline every part of the last post. :D
Quite frankly, I was amazed at the fact that you're not naked in sex. If you feel really badly with some part of your body, tell us, we'll help you take those ghosts away. :D Men aren't really that picky with small stuff, trust me, and for I've seen of your photos, you aren't small or ugly, so...
What are you waiting for? Just be prepared to hit your head in the wall several times when you realize what you've been losing and missing out on. :D
I have strech marks as well. Once I asked by husband what he thought about them. He had no idea what I was talking about. I pointed. He still didn't see anything. So he put on his glasses and then said "THOSE? Jeez, if you hadn't showed me I would never have noticed. I love your body because it has your personality on the inside."
And that is just the thing. Dressing up sexy is nice as a spice on the sexlife (and it even rhymes ;)), but you're husband will always love the body that belongs to the woman he loves and he will want to see and love everything, especially because that body of yours that you feel have flaws, provided him with beautiful children and a lot of great, hot experiences - and hopefully many more in the future!
So just do what I do - distract him so much he never knows what hit him. :D
Women are much more self-conscious than men. Any man that truly loves you would enjoy the skin contact and the increased closeness you would feel. I know a perfect night for me would be cuddling with my s/o, just for the contact, and she feels the same way. As I've seen Doc say a ton of times, 98% of sex is physical closeness and intimacy, and 2% is actual intercourse. You can make that 98% so much better with more contact. Jmho.
@Orow: Your English is awesome. Better than most native English speakers xD