I wasnt sure which other section to post this in so here i go...I recently started to see this women....and although we have only been 'seeing' each other for 3 weeks or so...we have known and liked each other for several years and something has just developed...anyway the Women i am seeing is very inexperienced (Only 1 sexual partner before me). And anyway my problem is that I tend to outlast her....she has in the 3 times we have done it she has always orgasmed before me...I am not sure how to approach this situation but although she keeps going for my benefit i can tell she would prefer not too. And i would like some info or ideas as to how i can speed up my orgasm time....lol.. Very not the usual problem.
Harry
u could wait until u r closer 2 orgasm before having intercourse.
Have her give you some oral sex or a hand job before intercourse. If she isn't very experienced, then this would be a good time to teach her some new tricks just for you. There are many other ways to give you stimulation before intercourse which is what you need it sounds like.
[QUOTE=coveresid]Have her give you some oral sex or a hand job before intercourse. If she isn't very experienced, then this would be a good time to teach her some new tricks just for you. There are many other ways to give you stimulation before intercourse which is what you need it sounds like.[/QUOTE]
well....here is a story...last night i had been drinking at her place not much just a few vodka's and we ended up in the sack...anyway although i had recieved oral from her for at least 20 minutes and a 10 minute blowjob i...still was not able to cum for a long time..we had sex for at least 4 hours and came right at the end...i dont know what to do...having sex for long periods of time is great...but not all the time.
Really? Just hornier by not having sex for a long period of time, No porn, No Masturbating, no Nothing for a really long time. Like... a week? ~.^
[QUOTE=JJtheJetplane]Really? Just hornier by not having sex for a long period of time, No porn, No Masturbating, no Nothing for a really long time. Like... a week? ~.^[/QUOTE]
No Porn...I Dont masturbate for this reason....But i think i may have to go for a week without sex and see if i can go quicker then..
> the Women i am seeing is very inexperienced (Only 1 sexual partner before me).
Upon what do you make this determination, Harry? I would say that if she and her former partner made love at least an average number of times that she is not "very" inexperienced. If you base your conclusion on the number of partners, then as far as I am concerned, numbers alone do not equate to experience, only knowledge.
> my problem is that I tend to outlast her....she has in the 3 times we have done it she has always orgasmed before me.
And this is a problem, how? I know of no rule that states guys have to enjoy a climax before our partner, or, as was once the rage not too many years ago, to attempt simultaneous orgasms. If your wish is to shorten the span between orgasms, regardless of who's first, then this would be a reasonable objective. Many of us enjoy multiple orgasms and if your friend is one then helping her to have one or more before or in between yours is fine and simply a matter of managing and planning.
> i would like some info or ideas as to how i can speed up my orgasm time.
I have addressed this matter several times within recent weeks. Here is a copy of one such reply:
" > my bf doesnt seem to come when we are having sex, and this includes when giving him blowjobs, handjobs, and lots of sex.
If he is turned on in your presence, and, if he can perform sexually, then "what we have here is a failure to communicate", in so many words and actions, in my opinion. Many times I have talked about what it takes to bring about a person's climax. Here it is again in a nutshell, or maybe a coconut shell!
Each of us is responsible for our own orgasms; we do not give them away. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own. Upon first learning how to masturbate, each of us quickly develops and then settles into a routine of how to do it. We all understand the basic mechanics of how to stroke a penis and finger a clitoris; however, over time we develop a technique that is unique and specific to each of us. This is what I refer to as the "fine art" of the process. If we are off the mark in how we stimulate each other then we will either not have an orgasm, or, it will be less than expected.
Your concern is that he is not able to achieve an orgasm via a hand- or blow job, or, "lots of sex". There are two possible reasons for this, either or both of which could be the cause. The first is mentioned, above, with regard to hand jobs. If your technique is not what he has come to rely upon when taking the matter into his own hands so to speak, then he will find it difficult or impossible to reach a climax. So, what is a girl to do?
Ask and encourage him to demonstrate how he masturbates. Then, have him take your hand in his in order to guide your movements over several sessions so that you can learn to mimic the movements, rhythms, and pressures that are unique to him. Once you learn how not to "rub him the wrong way", you will be able to work him into a frenzy of excitement, anticipation, and tension in short order and then take him over the threshold for an orgasm. All of this holds true for you with him.
The second scenario is this: If one or the other of you is relying upon lots and lots of stroking during intercourse to build arousal, then you have incorrectly placed the proverbial cart before the horse. Stroking is designed to maintain a pre-existing high level of ardor and sexual tension, not to generate it. Thrusting is designed to peak this high level of sexual excitement and to take one or the other of you beyond the trigger point of an orgasm. It's that simple.
With frequent regularity a person will post his or her concerns on the Board about how they make love for hours and hours and have intercourse for ten, twenty minutes, or much longer, yet are puzzled why they are unable to bring about their respective climaxes when "doing it". Here, again, the answer is quite simple and has to do with their approach to the business at hand. In other words, placing the horse before the cart. This is the entire purpose for making out!
Listen up, guys and gals. If you are not making out to the extent that the two of you are ending in nirvana, then you are not devoting sufficient time to the process, or are going about it correctly. (This is another subject that I have covered extensively and that you can learn more about by doing an advanced search using my name and the key word "inclusive".)
Guys, ya just gotta spend no less than half an hour to the process of making out, and longer, if possible. The female of the species requires no less most of the time in order to become sufficiently aroused. We benefit from this time, also. [COLOR="RoyalBlue">Once your kisses and caresses bring him to the brink of an orgasm, you then have options. You can trigger it manually, by hand; by a combination of manual and oral sex; or, engage in intercourse.[/COLOR] Oral sex more often than not has the same affect as stroking--to maintain. [COLOR="Sienna">Sometimes a guy can get off just from oral stimulation; however, more often than not, we require what I refer to as the dynamic duo--a combination of oral and hand stimulation.[/COLOR]
Learn the location of your boyfriend's hotspots. The A#1 hotspot is the Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). He may have one or more secondary spots distributed around the edge of the Corona Rim {Rear portion of the Glans where it joins the shaft). Rubbing any of these will quickly bring him to the brink of an orgasm or beyond. So, cutting to the chase: the key to all this has to do with mimicing his unique and specific movements and to involve his hotspots.
Women state that if intercourse lasts longer than ~ten minutes, they become tired, bored, and SORE. A word to the wise man, do not let this be your modis operende. "
I hope this is of help. Got questions?