I have noticed that i havent been able to finish ever unless a certain spot right below the head is stimulated quickly, thats ok until i get into recieving oral and sex... so im curious as to how to be able to finish with a slower pace and from a more broad area.
Tue, 05/20/2008 - 21:37
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not sure how to rewire myself


You expect me not to after a line like that? :P
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;218501]
For those stubborn cases, I also have a 'sensitizing' program available but try the moves in the sticky post mentioned above first.[/QUOTE]
Out of curiousity, what does that involve?
Stop masturbating. And recieve oral, and have sex as much as humanly possible
There is some woman out there who will rewire you instantly. Just have to find her.
[QUOTE=Ducy;215834]Stop masturbating. And recieve oral, and have sex as much as humanly possible[/QUOTE]
I do not agree.
I do agree with the "rewiring" whether you do it or a girl does it.
The trouble with receiving oral as I have addressed several times including in at least one Sticky post is that the stimulation generally takes you on a different path to Nirvana than does stimulating the penis manually.
When a boy first learns to masturbate, he very quickly settles into a routine of movements, rhythms, and pressures, that concentrate on specific areas of the penis. Working in concert this technique becomes habit and he relies upon this with some variation the rest of his life. If the pattern is changed too much an orgasm will either not happen, or if it does, will not be what he had hoped for. When we turn the reins over to a partner, then verbal or non-verbal feedback becomes a critical part of the technique they use in order to guide her progress. The partner has to learn to mimic the technique we use when home alone.
The Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft) is thee most sensitive area of the penis. If a person has one or more hot spots distributed around the Corona Rim then these are second.
I suggest going back to basics and work at developing a technique for masturbation that you can count on day in and day out. Concentrate on the Glans and the hot spots as well as stimulating the shaft as lightly as possible. Give it some time.
If you want to discuss this some more PM me.
I agree with Brandye; a woman who is into finding the good spots on you, or you showing her, works best. You know them as doc said concentrate. As Ducy points out, you do get accustomed to your own thing--pressure, rhythm, etc. Now just show her...If only accustomed to one certain touch & only done one way, you need to find someone who is willing to give you a hand...:)
So, TAKE THAT, Doc!!!!
Two women cannot be wrong.
Dated a man who was heavy into self pleasure & he was over 40. Well, after long enough, I quit. I tried new things and to find the spots. Found only he could actually create an orgasm--no assistance. He was so accustomed to his own sensations, not open to letting me play, had the same with all previous women--I gave up.
Have to be open minded and willing to let go--let he have her way & surrender; allow your senses [sight, feel, smell, touch--of another] to take you or at best your imagination!
I do swear men who masturbate too much & do not have a sexually exploratory woman with them do not orgasm with ease. Stick to the ones who have a clue. However, I sense the OP is young.;)
One thing I have found (as I find it difficult to have an orgasm, under any circumstances) is that the more foreplay you have the better. To quote EEK: "It's not just for her."
Also just lay back and enjoy the act, don't worry about whether or not you're gonna come.
However you may consider masturbating with some kind of lube (astroglide is good) and using very light, slower movements to simulate what it will feel like with a partner as much as possible.
sera? honey? are you switching sides on me? Doc will never forgive me.
[quote=Brandye;215935]sera? honey? are you switching sides on me? Doc will never forgive me.[/quote] Nope. I assume the Op is young. A good woman who knows; what to do & will do it for most! :) I doubt the OP is a "lost cause".
Hmmm... there seems to be another reason here for why males should start having sex with females at an age younger than 30.
Good god I was taught a lot of garbage when I was younger. Completely screwed up my adult life. Ah well, hardly matters in truth but what idiocy we feed our youth.
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We're quoting EEK now? How nice! Thank you!
Ask your lover to follow The Program. By the time she's through with you, you will be re-wired.
For those stubborn cases, I also have a 'sensitizing' program available but try the moves in the sticky post mentioned above first.
Don't ask until you REALLY need to know. It isn't all that pleasant.