Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost a year, and had sex about 2 months into our relationship. I'd had sex with a pervious boyfriend but he was a virgin.
Our first time wasn't the greatest because he had a hard time staying hard, and I didn't mind as I figured he was nervous. We still have the problem of him losing his erection though, and we have had sex quite a lot.
He'll lose it a few time when we start then finally get it and it'll be great. I was just wondering though if there was anyway to help him keep his erection from the get go because he loses it quick and so then we have to wait until he gets hard again. Which is frustrating to both of us.
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Losing an erection is common, particularly within a new relationship. Erections have a mind of their own; they come and they go. If a guy loses an erection this does not mean that lovemaking is over. If and when one goes away, simply continue the lovemaking.
An erection can go away if the penis is ignored for a period of time.
An erection can go away if the couple do not devote a lot of time to making out.
There are two things to try when the erections subsides; first, rebuild it! by going back and stimulating it, again; second, take a pause in the proceedings and cool off, then rebuild your arousal levels, again, and continue on.
Losing an erection is not a big deal so do not make it one. The world did not end, and the love making session need not.
You simply have to find what he esp likes and make sure to give him whatever it is periodically to help him get and keep his erection. You ARE supposed to be an ACTIVE participant in sex - not just some receptive female who expects him to do all of the work.
I recommend that the two of you read the articles listed in the Index:
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
...and particularly those that discuss how to go about making out. All too often couples nowadays, especially guys, operate under the misguided misconception that the way to an orgasm is quickly and without a lot of fooling around, first. WRONG.
Relationships are partnerships and this is true for the love making part of the relationship. Either person can initiate and lead, yet if one leads, the other should be an active participant. If this is the way the two of you go about things then great! If not, please change tactics and learn how. If his penis loses an erection, rebuild it by continuing the Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and, Foreplay.
If your boyfriend is worried about performing, this is usually the reason why erections fail. The fix is to quite simply stop worrying. (I know, easier said than done.)
I hope this is of help. Got questions?