Okay, for one, why can't you have sex for a while?

What do you mean 'other then sex?' Surely you know of masturbation...or are you asking for something you can do DURING masturbation to help out during sex?

I'm no doctor but when my guy wants to go longer he changes the pace. Like if he's going fast he'll slow down. I don't know if that would help you reall thou....

Look in a search engine for "squeeze technique." It takes cooperation of your g/f but it is enjoyable assistance.

> I'm not quite sure of the actual problem, the thing is when I have sex with my girlfriend I come within 1 - 2 mins

This is a common problem with teenage boys and young men up to their mid twenties. It is known as "Premature Ejaculation". It is the untimely unplanned ejaculation within the first minute or so and occurs:
* upon entering the vagina
* Upon the initial return stroke
* Within the first few of strokes

If a guy climaxes after this time, like 2, 3, 5, or more minutes later, it is not PE, rather, simply an untimely event. Now, having said that, the cure for both is the same.

There are two methods. The Squeeze technique Brandye recommends works just fine; although I prefer it for emergency use. I recommend that the guys train themselves to recognize when an orgasm is about to happen so you can gain control over it. This is a more perminent solution that also makes it possible to enjoy multiple buildups before going for the finale, and, for getting as close to the trigger point as possible without loosing control and coasting past and having an orgasm when you do not want it. Also, for being able to stop and switch positions inorder to have intercourse. The following link addresses a training exercise you and your girlfriend can put into practice.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/16418-plz_guys_i_really_need_hel...

Yea it just teaches your control over your orgasms. It lets you read the signs better of when you are about to orgasm, and that way you know how far you can push yourself...almost to the edge.. but not over it.
Sex is the same way... you can't pound like a jack rabbit and then wonder why you came in 2 min :P

Laddy, the exercise is for "exercising control" over an erection regardles of how the stimulation occurs: by stroking, and/or orally, or intercourse. More often than not guys get all worked up into a lather and fire their "cannon" upon entering the vagina or within moments of doing so as described.

db explanation is right on the mark. The exercise is designed to make you consciously aware of the sensations associated with a pending orgasm, and those that occur immediately prior when you still have control yet choose to ignore them thus experiencing an orgasm. The other reason for the exercise is to "wake you up" so to speak so you will make the conscious decission to put a hault on things until the sense of urgency subsides. Simply put, you want to learn when to pause the proceedings and then to muster the moxie to actuall say "STOP" when you are in a eurphoric state.

> Has anyone got any tips for being able to concerntrate on something else whilst having sex because that seems to help but I find it hard to stay concentrated on something else.

The answer is the same as for "waking up" from a state of bliss and deciding to hault the stimulation so you do not cum right then rather than to just say ah heck and let it happen only to regret it later. Another analogy is when you are on a diet and walk out to the refrigerator and raid it during a television intermission and then "wake up" after sitting back down to discover that you've been eating something and then kicking yourself and wondering why you didn't stop yourself on the way out to the kitchen. It requires that you learn to focus on matters of concern and take action even when your brain or alter ego is saying, Laddy, just let me experience this orgasm now.

So, if you want to focus your attention on something other than those exquisite feelings you have to do a bit of mind control and just do it.

> Also some advice on being able to control your erections more would be very helpful.

Control them how, Laddy? Please be more specific.

Without knowing more, all I can say is what you already know and that is erections have a mind of their own, and this is probably not what you want help with.

> What I mean by erections is stopping them from coming on so fast. I seem to get them so easy when lying with my girlfriend. She doesn't seem to mind but I'd rather be able to control myself better.

Ah..to be young, again. You are just going to have to suffer spontaneous erections for a few years. As you continue to age, you will find that they eventually disappear, like maybe in your late forties or early fifties. There's no set time line and everybody is different. When they do stop appearing automatically, you will be greating your partner either limp or partially erect and she will have to take matters into her hands from the beginning to get you hard.

I know, they can be inconvenient, sometimes troublesome, and occasionally embarrassing, yet if you don't make a big deal out of them, she shouldn't either. It's not like she's sitting there staring, waiting for a bulge in your pants to appear--or is she? Really, the best solution is to just go with the flow and enjoy them.

My advise is to not let these erections bother you when you sit next to your girlfriend. Truth be told, she enjoys knowing she is having this effect on you and you should enjoy knowing what she knows.

If you want to hide an erection, standing, walking, or sitting, you can put your hand in your pants pocket and discretely reposition it so it is under the fly. The folds in your trousers will usually camouflage it.

(I wonder if there is an ulterior motive for wearing bikinis and speedos?)

If you really want to try and stave off an untimely erection, try masturbating shortly before meeting her. This might work, although, there are some disadvantages, also, like not being as reactive to her touch as you would normally be.