[FONT="Palatino Linotype"][COLOR="Purple"]Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for 6 months now. I just found out that I do not satisfy him enough when I am giving him oral or using my hand. He has never said anything to me before. I have been trying to figure out the problem but I just do not see it. Hopefully someone else will. With using my hand, I have seen how he does it, and I will get out some lube and do exactly what he does. When I do he gets pleasure from it so much that I have to stop. If I keep on he will finish and then everything stops. After he finishes he is done for, no more play. He can not have multi-orgasms. So he doesn't like me to do it for long because of this reason. As for the oral; he has told me that the tip of the penis is the most sensitive and to forget about the rest (except the testicles at times). So when I am giving him oral I focus on the tip and I also use my hands, wandering over the rest of him. I will ask him if it feels good or ask him what feels best and do all different things. He will tell me what feels best and I will continue to do that. After I get into it, he starts quivering and then after a few seconds he stops. He did not have an orgasm he just stopped all his expressions (body movement). He is a very quiet person in bed, I knew this. It is because he says he is focusing on me, and if he allows himself to think of how it feels for him, then it will all be over and I'll be left in the dark. I didn't think it would be that way everytime for foreplay too. The expressions is what helps me know how he feels because he is not vocal at all. I have to ask questions and he replies to them, but then all of a sudden,,, stops his expressions. I don't know what I am doing wrong. I have tried to talk to him, but he says practice makes perfect, and he just knows his body so he knows how to do it best. He actually had me stop giving him oral and finished himself. In front of me:confused which I think was a turn on for him) but I couldn't touch him. I need some pointers and some tips. I want to blow his mind. I have tried the take over position. And just do with him what I will. Let him relax and me take over, but after it gets down to actually having sex, he doesn't "care" for me being on top. It just doesn't do much for him, but I can for me, and then he'll take over and finish. So I'm at a loss. I want to please him and blow his mind. Show him how I feel. Please help!:confused: [/COLOR][/FONT]
Mon, 08/13/2007 - 04:40
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Not pleasing my man: so confused.
[quote]I just found out that I do not satisfy him enough when I am giving him oral or using my hand. He has never said anything to me before. I have been trying to figure out the problem but I just do not see it. Hopefully someone else will. With using my hand, I have seen how he does it, and I will get out some lube and do exactly what he does. When I do he gets pleasure from it so much that I have to stop. If I keep on he will finish and then everything stops. [/quote]
I do not understand as there appears to be a contradiction between the two underlined statements.
If he climaxes and does not want to continue then it sounds like you have indeed pleasured him to his satisfaction, otherwise he would want to press on.
Are you giving each other verbal and non-verbal feedback on how each of you is responding to the other's caresses, and for what you may need-now? If not you need to incorporate this. When we masturbate we benefit from an internal feedback that lets us modulate our movements and to make midcourse corrections. This is absent when we turn the reins over to our partner.
Even though you are able to help him achieve a climax by what you do and from your observations of his technique, if he has not taken your hand and guided your movements then this may be a significant factor in why you are not pleasuring him to his liking.
As for oral stimulation, please read the Sticky post on the matter.
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
[quote] After he finishes he is done for, no more play. He can not have multi-orgasms. [/quote]
How do you know he is "done"? Have you tested this by continuing to make out lightly during the ten to thirty minutes he is recuperating? It takes a guy a while before he is good to go, again. Women on the other hand are good for more orgasms within moments of the previous. (Does he know this fact of life?)
If you have not tried to keep the romance alive during this period. Do so, and have him help you have one or more orgasms in the interim.
[quote] So when I am giving him oral I focus on the tip and I also use my hands, wandering over the rest of him. I will ask him if it feels good or ask him what feels best and do all different things. He will tell me what feels best and I will continue to do that. After I get into it, he starts quivering and then after a few seconds he stops. He did not have an orgasm he just stopped all his expressions (body movement). He is a very quiet person in bed, I knew this. It is because he says he is focusing on me, and if he allows himself to think of how it feels for him, then it will all be over and I'll be left in the dark. I didn't think it would be that way every time for foreplay too. [/quote]
The boy has issues. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. With that in mind, I believe he needs to acquire some additional knowledge on what is expected. He does not have to end it or simply quit. That is so much hooey. He must understand that by leaving you hanging and unsatisfied he is being selfish and self-serving.
I recommend that he pleasure you first and third in the overall scheme of things. You can keep him motivated and interested and wanting by doing just enough foreplay and caressing to keep him going forward. My point being, is that he should help you to have one or more orgasms before you help him to have one; then, encourage him to help you, again, afterward.
He may loose some interest immediately after climaxing and for the time span that it takes his body to be read to go, again, yet there is no reason why he cannot keep making out, keep his and your arousal alive, help you to have an orgasm, and then have his second one sometime later. Most if not the majority of guys can have a second or third in as multiple series, although each subsequent one becomes a bit more difficult to trigger and may require more effort on both of you.
That said, you have other techniques that will help jump start his climaxes.
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
Try fingering the outside of his anus, first. Later, if you want to try the squeeze play, do this as an alternative. Prostate massage works great, although this might be something to consider for much much later in your relationship.
By changing his priorities and focus, perhaps you can both have what you want.
[quote] I need some pointers and some tips. I want to blow his mind. [/quote]
I recommend that the two of you read through the many articles in the INDEX if you have not already done so. These articles offer all kinds of tips, help, and how-to information.
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
[quote]The expressions is what helps me know how he feels because he is not vocal at all. I have to ask questions and he replies to them, but then all of a sudden,,, stops his expressions. I don't know what I am doing wrong. I have tried to talk to him, but he says practice makes perfect, and he just knows his body so he knows how to do it best.[/quote]
Now on the latter, you must call his bluff. I agree that he knows how to do "it" best, yet what does he think about every other couple in the world? Does he think they each finish independently after making out together. This is just so much hooey and nonsense!
I have written extensively on the importance of teaching each other how to mimic each other's technique and for the importance of giving each other verbal and non-verbal feedback. Read the Sticky posts, please--both of you.
It might very well be that when he becomes still and expressionless, he is on the raw edge of a climax and giving it his complete and total focus. You can test this by not stopping; instead, keep on keeping on--faster and with more animation, if necessary!!
I agree that practice can make things perfect, yet how does he expect the two of you to accomplish this if you do not communicate, provide feedback and cues for how you are responding to each other's caresses, and, exploring and learning together. Do not let him become fixed in his ways.
I truly believe that if he is open to increasing his knowledge, that the two of you can have a great sex life. It does appear from what you have stated that he has some misinformation and misconceptions. When you talk to him, please realize that his fragile male ego may get in the way as he attempts to look better in your eyes.
-doc
Why I said that I don't pleasure him enough when using my hand is because if i don't us lube then he acts like I'm not even touching him. And if I don't ue lube, I feel like I'm going to hurt him or something because it is so dry. So the only way it feels good to him is if I use lube. No problem for me. I have to keep asking him while I am giving him oral or a hand job what feels best because most of the time, I can't tell what feels best to him. He makes no facial expressions, he doesn't make any noise, and most the time his body doesn't move.
When he starts quivering and then stops, I keep doing what I was doing. When it first started happening I thought that he was on the edge is why he stopped moving. After a while, when he never climaxes, then I just slowly move off of that and ask more questions of what else feels good. As for friday night, when I did that, that is when he just stopped me and did it himself. I have no problem if he wants to finish himself once in a while if it's a turn on. But he still didn't make any expressions at all, and left me out of it. So i felt like I was just sitting there waiting for him. Was not fun for me. I tried using my hands and mouth on parts of his body while he was masterbating. Nothing helped.
When he has an orgasm in sex. He doesn't want to kiss and rub or anything. In fact one time he actually said to me after I was caressing him, "what do you want from me? I thought I did it good this time". Meaning he thought I had enough. Which made me feel stupid and like I was pushing him too far. Also if we stay in the bed and I try rubbing all over his body, not touching his penis yet, and caressing him; he falls asleep. So as soon as we're done, he gets up and goes into the living room.
I am very vocal in telling him that's the spot of do this or this feels best. Also asking him questions about what I am doing. He is just SUPER SILENT. It drives me crazy. I would love to be able to make him moan uncontrolably for just once. He knows this too. He just grins and says that he's just not a loud person. It frustrates me. I have tried to put it in other terms for him. I asked him how he would like it if when he is doing stuff to me, that I just remain silent with no expression on my face. He said that he would hate it, b/c it turns him on when I moan, move, and make facial expressions. So I told him that's how I feel. Still doesn't seem to sink in though.
As for the anus, I can not do that at all. He said that he doesn't care for it, and I definately do not want to do that. Or have it done to me. Just not for that.
As for "If he climaxes and does not want to continue then it sounds like you have indeed pleasured him to his satisfaction, otherwise he would want to press on." Even sometimes when he does not climax he will just stop in the middle of sex, and say that it is not working. So I will try to get him into it again, sometimes it works others it don't. A lot of the time he will just say "it's not going to work" take off the condom and get dressed. I'm left laying there like "what happend"?
I will check out the threads, I hope that something helps. When he touches me I just am overwhelmed with desire and pleasure, I want him to feel this way too. I would love for him to just squirm all over the place and after or during tell me how great it felt. I love him and am not leaving him (some people have said to find another guy).
I thought maybe someone would know something that would just drive him absolutely crazy and not be able to control his expression. Thanks for the help. Any more suggestions would be great.
> (some people have said to find another guy).
Only you can decide what and how much you will put up with before deciding this is not what you want.
> When he touches me I just am overwhelmed with desire and pleasure, I want him to feel this way too. I would love for him to just squirm all over the place and after or during tell me how great it felt.
He has to understand the importance of this and what it means to you. Unless and until he gets it, I sort of doubt there will be a change.
> Even sometimes when he does not climax he will just stop in the middle of sex, and say that it is not working. So I will try to get him into it again, sometimes it works others it don't.
There will be times when ligitimately "it" won't work, although, these times should be rare. If he has been masturbating a lot that day, this is a likely reason. If you are not stimulating him exactly in the manner he needs and uses himself, this is a likely reason, also. If you are stimulating him orally, then this is frequently a way to get him aroused much more intensely than what he will attain from masturbation or intercourse, yet because the oral stimulation is not what his brain requires to trigger an orgasm, then this is a likely reason. It is also why I recommend the "dynamic duo" of adding a hand job along with oral near the end.
> A lot of the time he will just say "it's not going to work" take off the condom and get dressed. I'm left laying there like "what happend"?
If what happend is that he left you high and dry, then the lad needs quite a bit of Sex Ed! He should at least see that you are satisfied instead of turning a cold shoulder, getting dressed, or turning over and going to sleep. I do not have any cures, other than if you cannot convey the importance of what you need from him, and, that if he is not interested in becoming a better more enlightened and skillful lover, then nothing is apt to improve.
> So I told him that's how I feel. Still doesn't seem to sink in though.
Seems to me like the handwriting is on the wall in red.
> As for the anus, I can not do that at all. He said that he doesn't care for it, and I definately do not want to do that. Or have it done to me. Just not for that.
No problema. However, please understand that I was referring to the fingering of the outside of a clean and bathed body, not necessarily going inside. The outside surface of the anus is richly endowed with sensitive nerve endings, much like the outside and just inside the vaginal opening. These nerves turn on and become highly reactive when a person (male or female) is very aroused and nearing an orgasm. Fingering the anus will often help jump start an elusive orgasm. Just something to take away for future reference.
> When he has an orgasm in sex. He doesn't want to kiss and rub or anything.
Please clarify. What do you mean by "anything"?
> In fact one time he actually said to me after I was caressing him, "what do you want from me? I thought I did it good this time".
Please clarify. You were trying to pleasure him more after his climax? You were trying to get him to pleasure you and address your needs? You were trying, again, to help him climax?
> As for friday night, when I did that, that is when he just stopped me and did it himself. I have no problem if he wants to finish himself once in a while if it's a turn on.
One recurring theme to this discussion is that he takes matters into his own hands. OK, once in a while is good. Next time, encourage him to take your and and guide your movements as if he was doing it himself. The idea is to learn exactly over a few sessions the rhythms, pressures, and tempos of his method. If you can learn this then he should be able to climax from your efforts. (This is in one of the Sticky posts.)
> But he still didn't make any expressions at all, and left me out of it.
This is the other recurring theme to the discussion. Please stop focusing on his expressions, body language, or lack of. Focus instead on providing each other non-verbal feedback on how each of you is responding to the other's caresses, and for what you may need--now! There is a nice section on communication and feedback in one or more of the Sticky posts. Work on some hand movements like a squeeze her or there, or a rapid rubbing somewhere, each of which conveys a specific meaning that the two of you work out.
> So i felt like I was just sitting there waiting for him. Was not fun for me.
Making love is not what we do to each other, rather, what we do with and for each other. I can understand when one or the other of you has to divert once in a while in order to get up to speed with the other, yet, if there is too much of this self indulgence then where is the "partnership"? Something else the lad needs to know.
> Why I said that I don't pleasure him enough when using my hand is because if i don't us lube then he acts like I'm not even touching him. And if I don't ue lube, I feel like I'm going to hurt him or something because it is so dry. So the only way it feels good to him is if I use lube. No problem for me. I have to keep asking him while I am giving him oral or a hand job what feels best because most of the time, I can't tell what feels best to him. He makes no facial expressions, he doesn't make any noise, and most the time his body doesn't move.
> Why I said that I don't pleasure him enough when using my hand is because if i don't us lube then he acts like I'm not even touching him. And if I don't use lube, I feel like I'm going to hurt him or something because it is so dry.
Here is a tip: You can squeeze but you cannot pinch; meaning, you can clamp down with a fist, or, thumb and a finger or two, whatever, and grip the shaft very tightly and it will not hurt. So, feel free to clamp down like a vice-grip pliers. If you pinch the skin of the shaft, you can cause pain just like doing it anywhere else. Guys regularly squeeze the shaft very hard when they stroke, moving the skin up and down within their grasp. Normal.
> So the only way it feels good to him is if I use lube. No problem for me. I have to keep asking him while I am giving him oral or a hand job what feels best because most of the time,
Now, if you want to use lube, you have more options. You can do exactly the same thing, or, you can very very lightly graze your fingers over the shaft not moving the skin at all and this action will create a totally different set of sensations, often being more intense than what he normally resorts to as noted, above. Options are good.
> I can't tell what feels best to him. He makes no facial expressions, he doesn't make any noise, and most the time his body doesn't move.
Here is another tip: Stop asking him questions over and over. I can guarantee that by now he is reeling from the thought of any more.
Here is a thought: There is a behavioral method I talk about called "Implied Consent"; although, in applied to a different situation. You might read up on it and apply it to him with regard to not getting any feedback. Implied Consent, means the person keeps on keeping on doing what s/he has been doing as if by silent approval unless and until the person says or otherwise indicates that something different is needed. Give this a try and see what happens.
Please read through the relevant articles listed in the Index. Encourage your boyfriend to do the same, either along with you or separately. Then, discuss what each of you has gleaned from the knowledge presented.
I am very willing to work with you on all these matters; although, I have to tell you that unless you tell us that he is ready and able to be a willing partner in this, I am starting to become as frustrated with him as you must be.
Hope to hear from ya, soon.
Lol, it is very frustrating.
> When he has an orgasm in sex. He doesn't want to kiss and rub or anything.
Please clarify. What do you mean by "anything"?
As for this ( I accidently left out some words) I was meaning not a few minutes after sex, but may like a hour or so I will start to caress his body. I move my hands across his chest and (not touching his penis or testicles) start rubbing on his lower half of the body. I'm trying to get his senses moving, to start to get him aroused again. That is when he has told me "What do you want from me"?
By saying "anything" I meant like kissing, rubbing on each other, cuddling, anything at all. When he is done he lays on top of me for a minute then jumps up and is out of the room sometimes before I even get dressed.
I don't ask him questions every time, When I get no movement at all with him I might ask him a question like "does this feel good" or I might ask him "how does it feel". He always no matter what says good or yes. But then I was talking to him and I said well I can't seem to do what you like. I ask you and you say yes but it's not pleasing you like you need to be. He said to me "practice makes perfect, keep practicing". I am not a mind reader, and since he lets off no "clues" as to what is right for him, i'm just left experiementing and hoping that he actually got some good feeling from what I was doing.
One thing that I have always hated to do is swallow his seman. I do not like the taste or the texture and it makes me gag. He knows this. But I did it that night that he stood in front of me and ejaculated. I thought it might make him happy or feel good. Still no difference what so ever.
About the anus, I just do not like the thought of being near it at all. Any time he gets near it I start to get creaped out in a way. I think if I tried to do it for him that I would probably get sick. It just isn't for me. He said that he has had it done before and that it does intensify the orgasm. I just can not do it.
I am going to see if maybe he would be willing to get on this site and look around and read. I don't know if he will or not, but I have to try something else. I love him and want to know all his ticks and quirks but can't know them unless he lets me in. I asked him to really think about it and as silly as it might seem, to write down what he really likes and what he doesn't. ( We live 1 1/2 hours away from each other) And when he comes back next weekend, to show me. When he got my message, he still said nothing about it. I am going to talk to him again tonight, I just really hopes that he listens.
For a while I was having a real issue with having a orgasm, and I know that he felt like it was him. It was not and I told him that. I fixed the issue and I think that the problem has made a impact on him to where he doesn't feel secure about himself anymore. I think this could be a issue. It could be the reason why he doesn't say anything at all when what I am doing is not what he wants, and it could also be the issue for him not getting enough pleasure. I don't know.
Thank you for all your help. I hope that we can figure out the problem.
Summer:
As I read through your post which are filled with emotion & then I read Doc's breakdown of the issues; it sounds as if this guy is not sensitive to your needs and treats you poorly overall. It's not the sex; it's the overall lack of intimacy & compassion. Just b/c you need some work in bed, he hops up and leaves and you follow asking him "what's wrong" and catering to his insecurities. He may just not be right for you.
I think that one of the issues why he is insecure is because for a long time I was not getting orgasms at all when we were having sex. he felt like he wasn't good enough.
He goes about getting intimate in a total different way than i'm ust to. You know you start with a kiss and move on from there. He will sometimes just wip his penis out and smile at me like "get to work". At least that's what I feel like he's thinking. So sometimes I have to work myself up to do it.
Intimatcy to me is more. Yea there are times that I just want sex now..but I also like to take plenty of time and play around with each other. Stimulate each other without having sex right away. And saying 'I think we need to go to the bedroom" is not at all a getting me more in the mood. When we get to the room he takes all his clothes off grabs a condom and I have to undress myself.
I like it when we undress each other, do it together. Not you take yours off i'll take mine off. I have told him before that he shocks me how he just "ok let's do it" gets naked and is all ready. He'll be naked with a condom in bed before I even get my pants off.
We need to communicate more with this. He listens to what I have to say, sometimes when I dont' even know he heard what I said. But I don't think that it sticks too long in his brain or that maybe he don't truely understand how it feels. I would think he would understand because of how he has felt when I was not getting orgasms.
He does not treat me poorly. He is a great man and I know he loves me. I would say maybe it's not enough experience but that is not it. The last time he was with a women before me was 2 years ago. Maybe being with someone that he actually loves in a way intimidates him. Because before there were women that were just for fun, and then there were his ex gf's. I'm not sure what is going on. Hopefully I will find out soon.
You are doing the talking he tuned you out a long time ago. Sorry, but he is not looking at your needs & you are making excuses for his bad behavior.
This guy would have been gone along time ago. Met in the many years of men...one just as identical. You are trying to "fix" him, you are trying to make him feel better, he is doing nothing to satisfy your needs, even if it's just cuddling in bed.
Why do you accept such poor behavior? Jumps up out of bed half way through or is in bed with a condom on & you are undressing? And you are satisfied with your relationship with him?
Think long and hard, when a man loves you he is patient and kind in ALL ways.
I agree with Sera... I'm a man's man but I know how to treat my lady and make her feel good about how she is pleasing me... unless you are grabbing his penis like a broom handle I'm sure you are just slightly off if at all.. it could just be that he has issues indeed. By any chance are you located in Texas? he he... sounds like you are doing just fine!
I agree w/Hopper...even the "manly men" when with a woman they are interested in or especially ones they love, open up their soft side...they are the best. A man knows how to be patient and loving....the question is does he want to, in all ways, bedroom especially, that is your kingdom. This is what makes men such beautiful creatures!
I have never had this problem before. It sucks. I don't want to change him or make excuses for him. I am just tryin to look at it from his point of view. I just want to know what the problem is and why is it going this way. I don't want to get mad about the situation because he was in this situation for months. He just does not seem to take things serious enough. He is a very comedic person, and does not get serious about converstations much. He doesn't seem to open up to me very much anymore.
He is using humor to cover his feelings and lack of sensitivity. A man in the bed is a very good indicator of what type of person they are; they show you their good side and the compassionate side. Many look for that part to rub off on the day-to-day activities in life. You are searching for an answer to fix it; it's part of who he is that perhaps you did not see or want to see before. He has shut it off, men have limited capability to listen to our "squawking". You have to say something once, do not belabor the point, and let it go; otherwise, they shut us off and do not take us seriously.
Conversely, he does not seem to want to fix his problem, he'd rather just continue on without interruption of conversation. Let it go, you can lead a horse to water...cannot make him drink. Try the issue again quickly in a few days but I do not believe it will change. He needs time to mature.
See that's another thing, he is very sensitive. He is very nurturing and caring in all other areas. This one just seems to be a major problem. He is 28 years he should know what he wants and how he wants it. But he doesn't seem to know. I am going to talk to him tonight about this issue and others. He needs to communicate with me if he wants this to go further. He says that he loves me and wants a family with me. Communication is the key. He needs to really think about things.
A man who wants you, loves you, and wants a family w/you needs to be patient. Good luck tonight, keep to the topics, and don't belabor issues.
Thanks, hopefully it goes well.
Sera, you are pulling on my heart strings tonight. I get the rap of being the gruf, prior military officer, college wrestler type and people at work are often intimidated by my confidence but I can tell you I put my lady first in the bedroom and want nothing more than to serve her from head to toe, mind,body and soul.
[quote=hopper141;190324]Sera, you are pulling on my heart strings tonight. I get the rap of being the gruf, prior military officer, college wrestler type and people at work are often intimidated by my confidence but I can tell you I put my lady first in the bedroom and want nothing more than to serve her from head to toe, mind,body and soul.[/quote]
As I said, that's what makes men such beautiful creatures :)
Sorry I'm late but OMG! he lept up, took off the condom, and left you there "high & dry"?
Why did you let him back into your bed after that?!?!
That is a MAJOR insult!
You have simply GOT to STOP being accomodating, hun!
Either take over ala www.wickedwomangroup.us and SHOW him what you require from him or move on to a better man.
Do not marry him and have kids until he learns sexual civility!
I have looked at the site that you provided. And I actually got enough nerve up and did some of it. I loved it. I think that he really enjoyed it too. I am not sure because he does not talk about us being sexual very often. I just need him to open up to me more about what he needs.
As for the high and dry, this was not this week. It is one of the problems that have and sometimes occur. I almost don't blame him because we had already had sex so many times, I was just wanting more. Obviously he couldn't do more.
I don't mean to be rude, but everyone keeps saying "or move on to a better man". This is the man I want, this is the man I love. I AM NOT MOVING ON TO ANOTHER ONE. I am happy in this relationship, there is just some issues. Not everyone has to ability to be absolutely great in bed all the time. I don't know how to be that way, and I don't expect him to be either. Things do need to change but if they don't I'm not going to say, I quit.
Sex is not everything, even though it does mean a lot to me. I just want to be able to please him. If it is 50/50 I don't think that most of this would be going on. I have not been able to talk to him about this yet because he is working so much. But I am not going to just let this go. This issue needs to be resolved.
What I could really use is some tips on how to really get him going crazy, and some tips on how to get him to open up without feeling embarassed or that he's not good enough. B/c this is not the case.
Since we have been together sex has been a somewhat issue with us. One of us any time we were intimate were not getting exactly what we wanted. He would spend time on me and I would never have an orgasm. Well thanks to Evil I found out the reason why I wasn't and that is no longer a problem. So thank you Evil. Now the issue is mainly that either he does not know or he is embarassed to tell me exactly what turns him on. I have asked many times, but he just has always said everything about me does. To me that's not good enough. I want to know things that I do sexually that turn him more.
Having sex means give and take. Well now that I know how to take, I want to know how to better give to him. Also I want him to be able to understand that I need more intimacy before and after sex. I just do not know how to get him comfortable enough to open up about it.
Stop asking him and start trying various things and take notes!
If you really read the site, you'd know that THAT is exactly what you are to be doing - finding out precisely what makes him beg for it and giving that to him - repeatedly.
And yes, often SEX is EVERYTHING especially 30 years down the road.
Can you take 30 years of him NOT telling you?
I did read the site and I have tried various things. I get the same reaction as before. Nothing seems to be different. I mean he's pleasured but not enough to go crazy. And sex is not everything. It is just a part of your life together. And 30 years down the road if this problem still exists, then I guess he will just not get exactly what he's wanting to. I have tried everything. Nothing gets a different reaction out of him. As I said before, he gives NO signs of pleasure hardly at all.
When you have been married for eons, you will understand the significance of a good sex life.
I"m not saying that sex isn't important b/c I know it is. I love sex. But it is not everything. That is what I'm saying.
if sex is right it's 10 percent of a relationship, if it's not it's 90% and if you can find a mate who meets your needs you should do so prior to marriage.
It is okay, summerbreeze, because after only 10 years of his non-communication, you'll stop caring. A match made in heaven!
I just love hopper's last. So true!
[quote=Wagie;190524]I just love hopper's last. So true![/quote]
He must be watching Dr. Phil too!