I was at my crib chillin jackin off to porno flicks....And my ex girl friend calls me tellin me that her parents just left town for a lil while and if i wanted to come over....So I say #### yeah so she say okay me and my sista gonna come pick u up....Then we hung up then i remembered oh shit i jacked off I probably wont even be able to get hard. Cuz after i cum i can't get myself back up most of the time...I don't know why i have some kind of problem i think...Well her and her sista arrived and we went to their house and chilled her sis braided my hair....Then my girlfriend asked me to come into the room with her...And she was lookin at me smilin and said what u wanna do? I said i don't know she said u want to have sex? I was like iight....And then she got the condems and i started to kiss her and rub her titys she said no! Im like wtf i thought u wanted to have sex...Then she took of her pants and her panties but didnt take off her shirt so i didn't even ask no more questions i just got the condem and tryed to put it on my dick but i realized my dick wasn't gettin hard i asked her to rub it she said she wasn't gonna....Then she was like why aint u gettin hard i don't turn u on? And i was like U WONT EVEN LET ME TOUCH YOU! How am i supose to have sex with u? I mean she wouldn't even let me kiss her like when u love someone and only let me kiss her regular when she felt like it....And this trick wanted me to eat her out and she wasn't gonna return the favor....I am a virgin btw and my question is if me and her had a love connection like where we would hug and kiss and stuff would i have gotten hard then? Cuz thats what it seems like when i was with the girl before my ex me and her would kiss all the time it seemed like when i would kiss her i would get hard and she let me touch her body and eat her out and she gave me head But the funny thing is she never let me have sex with her but she still gave me head weird aint it?....but with my ex it seems like she just wanted sex and not love......So what do yall think of all this?
Mon, 01/09/2006 - 21:26
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Not getting hard
Your story requires answers with "what ifs".
> after i cum i can't get myself back up most of the time...I don't know why i have some kind of problem i think.
There is a period of time after we climax in which our genitals essentially turn of for a while and will not respond to any additional stimulation. Guys often although not always go soft after climaxing and it can take anywhere from 15 to 30 minutes before we can become aroused and climax again. Times do vary from individual to individual so if you take longer or not as long this is normal for you. That said, do you know how long it takes before you can have another erection?
> Then she was like why aint u gettin hard i don't turn u on? And i was like U WONT EVEN LET ME TOUCH YOU! How am i supose to have sex with u?
> I mean she wouldn't even let me kiss her like when u love someone and only let me kiss her regular when she felt like it....And this trick wanted me to eat her out and she wasn't gonna return the favor.
Your description of events makes it seem as if the girl is a bit self centered and selfish and is mainly interested in what you can do for her rather than what you can do together. I have no answer regarding why she wouldn't let you fondle her breasts.
There can be any number of what ifs regarding why she would not return the favor. Insufficient time might be one; not knowing how, two; doesn't like to, three; tease, four; etc. You will have to ask her for reasons.
> my question is if me and her had a love connection like where we would hug and kiss and stuff would i have gotten hard then?
I would leave "love" out and just use "connection" by itself.
The answer is probably yes, although taking into account what you said at the top about not being able to become erect right away after masturbating, then probably not until your refractory period {down time) has passed and you're good to go, again.
> when i was with the girl before my ex me and her would kiss all the time it seemed like when i would kiss her i would get hard and she let me touch her body and eat her out and she gave me head
Asked and answered.
Usually any number of sensory inputs would cause you to become erect.
* Thinking about what is about to happen
* Simply being in her presence and holding hands or cuddling
* Your imagination
* Looking at her
* Smells
* Looking at provocative ads or catalog models, etc.
> But the funny thing is she never let me have sex with her but she still gave me head weird aint it?
This is so not weird. It is quite the norm. People have their own time line and conditions to meet before being ready for intercourse. In the meantime, following all the kissing and caressing is foreplay and the usual finale is to climax either by hand and/or mouth. Men and women might enjoy the pleasure of each other's company for years before finding the right person or conditions for which intercourse seems right. (Read: marriage)
> but with my ex it seems like she just wanted sex and not love......So what do yall think of all this?
Yup. She is either very immature, selfish, or has a distorted reality about romance, love, and how sex fits into the equation.
[QUOTE=Quote (dancingdoc2 @ Jan. 09 2006,17:34)]Your story requires answers with "what ifs".
> after i cum i can't get myself back up most of the time...I don't know why i have some kind of problem i think.
There is a period of time after we climax in which our genitals essentially turn of for a while and will not respond to any additional stimulation. Guys often although not always go soft after climaxing and it can take anywhere from 15 to 30 minutes before we can become aroused and climax again. Times do vary from individual to individual so if you take longer or not as long this is normal for you. That said, do you know how long it takes before you can have another erection?
> Then she was like why aint u gettin hard i don't turn u on? And i was like U WONT EVEN LET ME TOUCH YOU! How am i supose to have sex with u?
> I mean she wouldn't even let me kiss her like when u love someone and only let me kiss her regular when she felt like it....And this trick wanted me to eat her out and she wasn't gonna return the favor.
Your description of events makes it seem as if the girl is a bit self centered and selfish and is mainly interested in what you can do for her rather than what you can do together. I have no answer regarding why she wouldn't let you fondle her breasts.
There can be any number of what ifs regarding why she would not return the favor. Insufficient time might be one; not knowing how, two; doesn't like to, three; tease, four; etc. You will have to ask her for reasons.
> my question is if me and her had a love connection like where we would hug and kiss and stuff would i have gotten hard then?
I would leave "love" out and just use "connection" by itself.
The answer is probably yes, although taking into account what you said at the top about not being able to become erect right away after masturbating, then probably not until your refractory period {down time) has passed and you're good to go, again.
> when i was with the girl before my ex me and her would kiss all the time it seemed like when i would kiss her i would get hard and she let me touch her body and eat her out and she gave me head
Asked and answered.
Usually any number of sensory inputs would cause you to become erect.
* Thinking about what is about to happen
* Simply being in her presence and holding hands or cuddling
* Your imagination
* Looking at her
* Smells
* Looking at provocative ads or catalog models, etc.
> But the funny thing is she never let me have sex with her but she still gave me head weird aint it?
This is so not weird. It is quite the norm. People have their own time line and conditions to meet before being ready for intercourse. In the meantime, following all the kissing and caressing is foreplay and the usual finale is to climax either by hand and/or mouth. Men and women might enjoy the pleasure of each other's company for years before finding the right person or conditions for which intercourse seems right. (Read: marriage)
> but with my ex it seems like she just wanted sex and not love......So what do yall think of all this?
Yup. She is either very immature, selfish, or has a distorted reality about romance, love, and how sex fits into the equation.[/QUOTE]
Thanx Doc...I appreciate it
You're welcome.l
I don't know how many points I got right; however, if you have more questions, comments, or concerns, feel free to ask.