If you suggest for sex and he doesn't want it for any obvious reason (too tired after work etc.) just take of your clothes and start masturbating. Good training for orgasm and I'm sure he will want you after that.

He might be turned off because he has never been able to give you an orgasm, and doesn't want to dissapoint you again. Talk about it.

My fiance uses sex toys in the beginning to have her first orgasm first, she gets a kick out of using them before we have sex. She basically works herself up whether using her toys and her hands. She gets very excited which gets me excited. I'll usually help with the toys and stuff but once she is done, her drive for sex seems alot more and then we can go on for at least a good hour straight. Probably best thing to do is to sit with him and ask him if he is into you and see if anything is bothering him. Something might be up and that may cause the reason why is not into it.

The first question: He may not want to be with you. Or, he may feel that he does not want to be demanding. Who knows? Only thing to do is to talk about it.

Second question: The best training for an orgasm is masturbation for us women. Once we discover what we are moviing towards, it is easier to get there. Check this and other sites for female masturbation techniques. Many recommend vibrators which have certainly gone mainstream when major newsmagazines have articles on their display in high end stores. Talk to girl friends or others who may be willing to give you pointers. My first orgasm (at 13) was an accident. I was rhythmically rocking on my menstrual pad and it got more and more intense. It sure changed things!

I usually use just my two middle fingers; my g/f uses three; I have had a cologne bottle for years that is just right; she has a vibrator. Use your imagine and, perhaps, some literature to get your fantasies rolling.

I see these as two separate issues. You can work on your sexual development alone but the other issue requires participation from your b/f.