[FONT="Century Gothic"][SIZE="3"]The other day I was with my boyfriend and we started making out.
Well he pulled me/I climbed into his lap so I was straddling him and I could feel he had a MAJOR erection.
Well after awhile he grabbed my hips and grinded me against him trying to get to to do it on my own.
Well I got the hint and this was the first time we were doing that.
Well I started grinding against him/dry humping and he grabbed my hips and started grinding me harder against him while he thrusted his hips up.
Well the firt time he did that his head shot back from mine so it was resting to the back of the couch and he started breathing really hard.
He kept on grinding me harder and faster against him and I just didnt want to sit there so I started kissing and sucking on his neck which made him breathing even harder.
Soon he started moaning and I knew that was my que to stop so I stopped and he started whinning and kept on trying to get me to start again.
Is that normal? Please help me! [/SIZE][/SIZE][/FONT]
Yes that is very normal. I used to react the very same way with my ex-girlfriend. It was very much the same thing, her in the riding position while i was trusting and than she would begin sucking my neck. Its very arousing thus explaining the excessive breathing. So nothing is really wrong with your boyfriend =P Though it may to much for him to handle at once but he’s loving it.
I really enjoy grinding while fully clothed - especially as some items of clothing (jeans especially) can be really stimulating. The guy I'm seeing though seems to really prefer the whole, nothing til naked. The first thing he does if we've been making out and have the house to ourself is undress us both. The only time I get any of this sorta action is if we're in a slightly less private area (i.e the beach).
How can I extend this period when we're alone?
SCPunkRebel, what you were experiencing was entirely normal, I'm sure if you were to take a poll, most people with sexual experience have experienced dry humping and it is a major turn-on for a lot of people. Some even treat it as foreplay because it's a good way to get things started. But instead of wondering if it's normal, you should be asking yourself if it was right for you.
Katetd, you may just need to bring it up and communicate to him that you enjoy dry humping. Perhaps the reason he doesn't seem interested is because he doesn't know how much you enjoy it. Or you could always initiate the activity next time you are alone with him.
Best wishes and happy humping!
Why is that your cue to stop? Let the guy have his orgasm next time!
Do not stop. From his viewpoint you teased him and then did not deliver.
You probably gave him a good case of Blue Balls that he had to suffer with until he was alone in order to fix.
> > Soon he started moaning and I knew that was my que to stop so I stopped....
What was your reasoning for stopping? Cue? You misinterpreted the signs.
To quote my favorite magazine, "FOLLOW THE MOANS!"
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;167914]Do not stop. From his viewpoint you teased him and then did not deliver.
You probably gave him a good case of Blue Balls that he had to suffer with until he was alone in order to fix.
> > Soon he started moaning and I knew that was my que to stop so I stopped....
What was your reasoning for stopping? Cue? You misinterpreted the signs.[/QUOTE]
What the Doc said is true your B/F has now got a bad case of blue balls:(
please tell me you're not complaining! personally i got all hot and bothered jus reading that cuz it made me think of me and my boyfriend ... :-D hehe
yes it's normal i was surprise myself the first time we did that - it kind of came naturally and i love doing it now : )
You shouldn`t have stopped - he was obviously liking it. =] Next time just keep going.
Why would you stop? Wow, that is sooo wrong! If he was getting you off, and he just STOPPED, how would that make you feel? Because, it would piss me off, confuse me, and make me wonder if you even cared if I got mine. Next time DO NOT STOP!
Well its just that I didnt want him to cum in his pants because his parents. They would have been asking questions cause I were were in the basement and they were on the floor above us and he hast to pass them to go up the stairs to his room. Plus I didnt want him to feel umcomfortable if he couldnt go upstairs, and with him uncomfortable, I would have been even more uncomfortable cause I was the reason why he was.
> Well its just that I didnt want him to cum in his pants because his parents. They would have been asking questions
I'll venture a guess that at one time or another a guy has climaxed with his clothes on. Boys on dates probably have either in the front seat or back seat of a car. Boys on dates in basements, parks, farmer's fields, hay stacks, living room sofas, or anywhere else a couple choose to make out, have. It's only a tablespoonful and won't generally be seen on the outside of his pants. People (including parents) do not ordinarily go around looking at crotches for signs of moisture or erections. His parents may or may not have asked questions, although, had they, the questions would have come from knowing what people do when behind closed doors based upon past experiences, and not from finding signs of moisture on the front of his trousers.
Next time prepare in advance. Have some tissues handy that can be stuffed down his pants to wipe up and which can be removed then or later. Second, do not stop. Leaving him in an agitated state of arousal will drive him crazy--or crazed.
> I didnt want him to feel umcomfortable if he couldnt go upstairs, and with him uncomfortable, I would have been even more uncomfortable cause I was the reason why he was.
HUH? Why do you believe he couldn't have gone upstairs? Oh, believe us when we say that he was uncomfortable because of being left in a high state of arousal near the trigger point of a climax and not being able to relieve the pent up stress and tension. Your reasons although laudable, were based upon a false premise.
I'm surprised he didn't beg for you to finish the task at hand, or, to slip a hand inside his pants right then and there!
Okay i guess I see your point. I'll try and remember that all this weekend when I see him. I havent seen him in two weeks so hes going to be all over me.
Thanks.
Keep in mind that when your involvement with each other progresses to the point where his penis becomes exposed, you will find the process easier, although, it is still a good idea to have tissues or a washcloth, etc. at hand for "mop up".
let us know how it goes next time
[FONT="Century Gothic">[SIZE="3">Im actually kinda scared cause I get to see him Sunday and he hasnt seen me in two weeks so hes going to be all over me.[/SIZE][/FONT]
[QUOTE=SCPunkRebel;168211][FONT="Century Gothic">[SIZE="3">Im actually kinda scared cause I get to see him Sunday and he hasnt seen me in two weeks so hes going to be all over me.[/SIZE][/FONT][/QUOTE]
No need to be scared.
We are all new to some type of wrong (if you can say that) sexual act.
If it will make you feel better talk to him about it, I think you opening up to the situation with him will make him see that you actually care about how he feels too and that you are caserne how he felt after that night to
If my G/F spoke to me after I possibly had blue balls I would be over the moon .
Good luck
Ok, I can even comment on this one.
DON'T STOP!!!!!
Next time, make it a point to make him cum in his pants. Don't let him away from you until he has shot a full load of cum right into his pants. It will not ever hurt him to do this. Most guys have at some point and it's defintely a good thing.
If he's wearing snug underwear (briefs or boxer briefs), he might have to "adjust" to make room for his boner before shooting off. If he's wearing loose boxers (better for this), then don't adjust anything down there. Just let it go.
How big the wet spot is in his pants depends a little on what he's wearing. The double fabric on briefs will absorb more then thin boxers. If his shirt is tucked in and it's pointing up, then his shirt might absorb it so you might not have a wet spot on his pants at all. If his shirt is untucked, letting the shirt hang out might cover the wet spot, especially if it points up. If it points down in loose boxers, that might make a very noticable wet spot but if that's what he's wearing, then make sure he has big wet spot before you are done! He will thank you for it!:)
[FONT="Comic Sans MS">[SIZE="2">yea but the thing is his parents are right upstairs so they will notice. I mean he has to walk past them to get to his room to chage. I mean come on his parents notice EVERYTHING how is he going to get past that?[/SIZE][/FONT]
Well like someone said... put a towel or tissue in his pants before hand, lol.
Or he doesn't have to walk upstairts DIRECTLY after he cums... if you guys just hang out a little while..it'll dry up.
Plus, why would they be checking out his crotch? lol
I would think a boner would be hard to hide too!!!
Or he could wear a long tshirt
...or, as I mentioned in a previous reply, just move on to having him expose his penis a bit sooner than later. Making out is generally accomplished in progressive steps. Necking becomes more bold and then moves on to Petting which becomes more bold over time and moves on to Heavy Petting and so on. The same thing often occurs when a couple begin exposing more and more of their bodies to their partner.
With girls this often begins with her breasts, first letting a guy cup them from outside her clothing. Bolder refers to then unfastening her blouse and letting him fondle them through her bra. He might then let a finger explore from the neck down and then slip inside one of the cups. Later, and then bolder would be to undo the bra and let it dangle before actually removing it--and so on and on. The same thing can be done with your genitals and his. If you are handling his penis through his pants, then the next bold step might be to unzip his fly and work on his penis through his underware. Sometime down the road you can then let it slip through the fly of his trousers and work on it directly out in the open. This is what I am offering as a suggestion when you are ready. With it exposed, it will be much easier to deal with the semen. You can have a small jar or cup for him to ejaculate into, or, he can ejaculate onto the skin of his lower abdomen, or, onto a towel or washcloth that is positioned to catch it on the fly. IF one or both of you are not yet ready for this level of intimacy, then let him stuff a washcloth down inside his pants and over/around his penis before going too far.
First of all, congratulations on doing such a fine job on you bf. He was really enjoying the humping which is why he didn't want you to stop. He really wanted to cum in his pants. The amount of fluid most likely won't create a wet spot. The idea of a tissue to clean up is good or just give it a little time after he shoots and it will dry out quickly.
My wife and I used to enjoy this activity when we were dating. Started out kind of mild with some minor motion and that made me get so hard. Then progressed to some grinding. Kind of like what doc said about progression with the relationship. Then we got to what you described with some good hard humping. Then one time she hit my spot so well and took me over the edge and made me cum. I loved the feel of semen in my pants and never had a problem with a wet spot showing. She took great pride after that in getting me to cum. She also enjoyed the feeling she recieved from the activity. Her panties would be so wet when we finished so we both had a wetness issue. Sometimes after she would make me cum, she wanted additional stimulation and her wetness made it nice and easy for her to recieve some fingering from me. So we both had plenty of fun.