no worrys. everyone has there preferences. you are not a hormonal teenager. you cant really control what turns you on so why worry. and why should it matter if she does not care and you are satified? hey as long as you are both happy there is no problim.

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> I'm a guy in my 30's and have only recently become sexually active.

Unusual perhaps in this day and age, although, many people are either finding the love of their life and/or getting married much later in life than in the past. So, being in your 30's and becoming sexually active is not that unusual.

> I've never really considered myself a particularly "sexual" person.

What do you mean by this?

> what I really like is to go down on her. It's weird because I don't get any direct pleasure (i.e. I don't have an orgasm or anything) but I love doing it. I love what it does to her and the way she moves around and the noises she makes.

There are two forms of satisfaction at play. The first is as you describe above, with her. The second is the build up in your own excitement, ardor, and sexual tension. In other words, performing this type of caress is mutually beneficial because it turns both of you on and perhaps to a greater degree than if you did not do it. Now, having said that, does she reciprocate? **

> I think she wonders sometimes why I like pleasuring her all the time without satisfying myself. The thing is, I do feel satisfied even if I don't orgasm. Am I normal?

Asked and answered. Do you eventually go on and have an orgasm? Surely you must after pleasuring her for awhile.

If you are pleasuring her orally, whether or not she climaxes from your caresses or by other means, later, then you are doing good things. If after caressing her orally and building your own excitement to a fevorish pitch you go on and have a climax be it from hand and/or oral stimulation or intercourse then you are in fact satisfying yourself.

> Am I normal? Do I have a repressed or mis-programmed sexual drive? Could I have a hormone imbalance or something? Should I even worry?

Nobody in their right mind, qualified or not, will offer a diagnosis over the telephone line. If your girlfriend is able to have orgasms and she enjoys them as a result of your activities then the two of you are normal.

If you are able to have orgasms and you enjoy them as a result of your activities then the two of you are normal.

If, on the other hand, one or both of you stop short of climaxing then I would venture to say that there is a problem.

Why would you wonder about having a hormonal problem? What are the symptoms?

My only concern without knowing more is that the two of you are able to perform adequately, albeit maybe not in the correct sequence.

> I like pleasuring her all the time without satisfying myself.

**Unless you want to masturbate beside her for some reason, then satisfying you is her contribution to the lovemaking session. Making love is not what one person does to the other; rather, it is what we do with and for each other. Lovemaking like other aspects of the relationship is a partnership. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own orgasms. So, if you are not being satisfied then I ask "why not"? Both of you can be "satisfied" and have orgasms by various routes: (Mutual) masturbation, giving each other hand jobs and/or oral stimulation; and, through intercourse. Any one or more can be employed during the same session.

If you've read (m)any of my posts then you no doubt have run across one or more that state the fact that each of us is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away to our partner. A typical love making session begins with kissing and moves on to light caresses {Necking). The things progress, the couple transitions from "Necking" to "Petting" to "Heavy Petting" to "Foreplay" to "Intercourse". The sequense of making out is all inclusive meaning that we begin at A, move to B, include A&B, move on to C, include AB&C, move on, etc., et cetera, etc. If you make out in this way then your respective levels of excitement will increase dramatically. If you sidestep much of the time that should be devoted to making out in favor of getting right to the climax, then you are not doing either of you any favors.

All too often inexperienced lovers will sidestep much of the making out process in favor of getting right to the jumping of each other's bones part. While this is quite OK for the proverbial "Quickie", it leaves much to be desired with the normal lovemaking session. Usually it is with the young inexperienced teens that this happens. They seem to be under the false belief that lots and lots and lots of humping is the way to achieve the male orgasm. WRONG!

Anyway, if you are not being "satisfied" and enjoying an orgasm, also, then who is dropping the ball? If you are seeing to her orgasms and not your own then she needs to understand what her part in all this is.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

i love that little exclamation at the end of the second to last paragraph

[QUOTE= Doc]They seem to be under the false belief that lots and lots and lots of humping is the way to achieve the male orgasm. WRONG![/QUOTE]

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