I enjoy sex, but penetration gives me very very little feeling. If im lubed enough, none at all! my boyfriend has to pretend hes a jack hammer for me to feel anything. i can enjoy clit stimulation, but its beginning to feel like penetration is just something i let my boyfriend do rather than something we both enjoy. We've tried hitting the gspot, but usually that just end up hurting, i guess its hard not to hit it too roughly? I've never enjoyed real pleasure from g-spot stimulation any other way either, gentlely or roughly, I dont know why. Am I normal? Do a lot of other women feel this way with penetration and/or G-spot stimulation? It just seems like my vagina isnt a sex organ!
Mon, 03/20/2006 - 08:10
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No vagina fun?
Please read the following two threads and in particular my comments.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_her/16437-please_i_need_know-2....
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/16570-please_look.html?highlight...
G-spot stimulation is accomplished by finger massage, not penis contact.
There are no nerve endings in the vagina. If there were, childbirth would be excruciating. So, there is no feeling in the vagina. Sexual stimulation occurs mostly on the outside and the pressure against adjacent muscles and other tissue.
One-half of allwomen require stimulation other than vaginal penetration to reach orgasm. We, and I am in this group, are lucky because one-quarter of all women never experience orgasm. Most women are most relaxed, receptive and accepting immediately following orgasm. I need fingers or a tingue to do the trick but, once I go over the top, I want a penis in me - NOW!. The fact is, in your terms, that penetration is something I let a b/f do because it is great for him and I do enjoy the feeling of having him inside. With my g/f, this is missing.
With most of my (male) partners over the years, we have reached an accommodation that he brings me off first and then I can really enjoy his enjoyment.
The sense of movement we have and the sense of depth is actually from pressure our other muscles are feeling. The G-Spot is a rather controversial topic. Medically, it does not exist; some sexperts swear it does. My g/f and I spent hours, on different occasions, looking for G-Spot stimulation and finally found it. We are both medical professionals with rather good knowledge of the area. The best explanations, medically, of the G-Spot are that the stimulation results from moving a ligament that runs along that spot of the vaginal wall which in turn is causing motion that stimulates the clitoris. Another explanation is that the pressure on that wall of the vagina is irritating the urethra and that is what triggers the orgasm - and also causes us to need to pee every few minutes!
Enjoy what you have and do not get hung up on what you may not be able to enjoy.
I'm not worried about finding the gspot (finger AND penis- i've found it) and im not worried about orgasms during penetration (i know its stupid to think you should get one like that.) what im worried about is a complete lack of pleasure from penetration.
everyone's different, obviously. instead of saying you don't enjoy penetration, find a way to enjoy it. or to enjoy something that happens at the same time. or give up on penetration altogether if you find it so pointless. it's your body, treat it as you desire.
You'll enjoy it more if your masterbating at the same time. I always use my fingers on myself while my husband is in me. I get to do what I enjoy and it totally gets him off to watch me do it.
[QUOTE]It just seems like my vagina isnt a sex organ![/QUOTE]
This has been the story of my life.... I'm a survivor of child sexual abuse & during my teen years was a sex addict but without any feeling attached to it & then I became sex-avoidant, celibate (sp?) for years. I never had an orgasm until now, either with clitoral or vaginal stimulation.
Reintroducing myself to the world of sex has involved making the scarey leap to believe again that my vagina is a sexual organ that can be pleasurable. I'm still only taking baby steps with masterbation - I don't feel anything when I touch myself ... but, when he touches me I do.
Communication is very important for me - if he doesn't notice penetration alone isn't doing anything for you, maybe it would help if you try stimulating yourself or asking him to stimulate your clit, too ... it can be very fun to masterbate eachother at the same time while his penis is in your vagina :)
Other positions can help a bit, too :o
are you on some kind of birth control??? maybe that could be the problem....that had deminished my sexdrive completely....i used to feel like i was literally just sitting there letting him do wat pleases him and just wait for it to be over.
if so maybe you could ask your doc about switching
Ah, yes, antidepressants can also really reduce sexual pleasure....