I have an issue. (I'm new here, wee! No that's not my issue ~_~)
My partner and I have tried many many forms of stimulation when it comes to me. From fingering, to watching porn, to just sensual massage...nothing works. I'm going out of my mind.
It seems that I get TOO wet and my body decides that it wants to shut off everything that would involve me having an orgasm during actual intercourse with my boyfriend. I've had this problem for years mind you, and I've read over this site a million times and THEN SOME to figure out what the deal is! Still nothing.
Is there a possibility that my body just wasn't meant to have one? That I'm not meant to have sex successfully? I'm confused, frustrated, and gah! It's so much just coupled with other issues. It's bad enough I'm self-concious the WHOLE WAY through sex...I'm overweight. About 236 LBS, and I'm also 4 months pregnant. This doesn't help. Bah.
Help?
Bandye does estimate that approximately 1/4 of all women never orgasm, so it is possible. Have you ever tried on your own? And if that works show your partner?
You said you have tried different forms of stimulation? Meaning you can not get into it at all?
Have you spoke with you OB/GYN about the issue?
Have you considered regular exercise and a good diet? Health has a great bearing upon sexual response.
Combining this thread with your other about all your issues with role play games and real life mind games, I still think you have lost the ability to separate the real from the imaginary. Sexual stimulation is very real but helped with fantasy. We women achieve sexual "success" mor through our minds than our pudendas.
You need to get your head cleared and identify yourself among the mass of make believe characters you deal with.
I have been flamed (gently) before for being a health nut but 236 pounds on any woman under two meters tall is excessive. And, yes, that does have a powerful effect, physiologically and psychologically, on our sexual receptivity.
Plus, you are wrestling with whether or not you really want the guy!
As so many of us responded on your long post, get real. Then we can talk about leanring to masturbate. You cannot stimulate an ephemera.