Hey there,
(please pardon the vulgarity of some of this stuff, just didn't know how else to say it...)
Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for a while now and she has never been able to cum during sex without stimulation to her clit. Recently, past 10 times or so she has said she has almost came from penetration alone, but never quite manages too. I asked her what it feels like and she says basically her g spot is getting stimulated alot and it reaches a peak that it never seems to go past. I kind of know her quite well now (as we have been having sex for 2 years) and when i know this is happening i sometimes try to stimulate her clit to help her along, but she says this is a completely different feeling to what else is happening and gives her to much to concentrate on and stops her from achieving either. My question is, am i doing something wrong? Is she just one of those woman? Does it sound like it could happen and any ideas on what i should try? I'd really like to do this for her if i could.
Another thing is, sometimes if we are just lying in the heat of the moment we might end up fooling around and she'll say something like, 'what do you want to do to me?' and it leaves me lost for words, i just don't know what to say. She tells me she just wants me to tell her what i want to do her but again i just have classic stage freight i suppose. Any idea's for confidence/things to say would also be appreciated.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I'll be lookin around the forum for some answers to similar problems and questions, but if anyone has any input or knows of some useful posts that would be great.
lostlover01
Some women don't have a O by penetration alone and some women do.
Try different positions
Also over time she will... she will learn what she has to do, what position she needs to be in for it to happen
Tell her whatever you want to do... Anal? Objects?? Positions...
She asked, tell her
If your are in a rhythm and hitting the g-spot and it's feeling good to her and she is on the brink...Don't change anything, don't speed up, don't slow down, don't change positions, don't touch the clitoris...just keep what you are doing, going...that should work.
When she asks what you want, tell her what's on your mind, that's why we ask...aim to please.
No your post is not vulgar, it did explain everything well.
I posted in the wrong place. oops.
One-quarter of all women never have an orgasm; another half of us (I am in this group) rarely experience orgasm through penile thrusting alone. Only about a quarter of all women regularly and frequently reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting.
Most of us require stimulation through digital or oral means and there is an entire movement that advocates the woman be brought off before penetration occurs. That is unnecessarily extreme but you get the point. Nature makes it easy for men to reach orgasm because that is necessary for propogation; nature does not care about the woman's orgasm because we get just as pregnant whether or not we have an orgasm. We need to learn through practice.
Thanks everyone for the feekback.
Brandeye: That's a very good point, i've never thought about that before. I guess it's just in nature for men to be selfish. I will try my best to learn through practise which i'll need to do alot of!
Thanks again everyone.
lostlover01
I know for me, G-Spot orgasms cannot include much, if any, clitoral stimulation; it is too much and is distracting. Personally, when I'm getting close from G-Spot stimulation, I like a faster, firmer stroking inside - not to be confused with deep pounding, that feels completely different. I would suggest making sure your penis keeps rubbing her in the same spot and try to apply as much pressure with your penis as you can, as quick as you can. This usually results in female ejaculation for me. Good luck!