hey everyone. im back again. =P
i didnt like choosing the new to sex category, because im not really new to it. my boyfriend and i have been having sex for quite a while. however, we like to keep it special so we only have it maybe three or four times a month. i have not had a single orgasm yet from intercourse. in fact...it's almost uncomfortable. sometimes i almost feel like im counting the time till its over, because im not getting anything out of it. my boyfriend is average size, maybe a little larger than average. i love pleasing him but it seems the only way that i can climax as well is if he fingers the outside of me, because if he penetrates then i dont feel anything other than being filled. i kno that its a common problem, but i really cant figure out whats going on. we've tried all different positions, and nothing feels any better than the one before. he feels bad because he wants to pleasure me as well. he wants the sex to be for my enjoyment, too. is there ANYTHING i can do to have an orgasm from sex?
wierdly enough, i remember the situation but when i was tryin to put into words how we solved it i couldnt do it. if i think of anything else i'll let you know. you could also try switching positions if you usually just use one, see if that makes any difference (that actually made a lot of difference for me!) like i said good luck!
thank you so much. im going to tell him what u guys said, then ill post back and let u kno the result =P any other ideas are always welcome too =)
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Try stimulating different errogenous zones while the two of you are having sex. For example reach down and play with your clit while he's on top of you or try doggy style and he can reach around and either stimulate you clit and your nipples. Another good position for me is when my boyfriend's on top of me and I put my legs on his shoulders. He seems to hit my g-spot this way.
hey. i remember that till not so long ago i had that problem as well. my advice would be try varying things, such as location, foreplay etc. Make sure uve got good communication with each other, if ur enjoying something let him know so he can keep doing it! try talking to him about some of your fantasies and acting them out as well. i hope that helps