nice evilkitten will try and see thank you

Obviously, he's struck upon the obvious spot that all women are partial to! Some men are oblivious to how to handle that spot - be pleased that yours is able to do so skillfully!

But, as for sex and orgasm, my advice is to be selfish. Seriously - when you are making love, center your mind on your own feelings, and be honest - let him know you are 'focusing' - he will appreciate it in the sense that you are enjoying.

(We all know the more excited women get, the men get even MORE excited KNOWING this.)

I would just focus on enjoying yourself - I mean, theres not alot you can do at this point to make him enjoy it more. ;)

A good position is (after serious foreplay) having him enter from behind - often the testicles hit the right spot if you plan it well!

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There isn't anything wrong... most women.. including myself... don't orgasm from penile thrusting alone... I need some clitoral stimulation to go along w/ it.

Only about a quarter of all women reach orgasm through penile thrusting alone. Pity the other quarter who never attain orgasm. That leases the middle half of us, I, too, who require additional stimulation but we get there.

I would suggest taking his hand and placing it on your clit, take turns giving yourself stimulation with your hand.

I can assure you that what he doesnt want to feel is:

you only care about your clit while he only cares about his dick. be focused and get to your orgasm but dont be so selfishly focused on your stimulation that you dont forget to occasionally stop and enjoy the intimacy and make him feel like this is a shared experience.

I had this issue with my current gf and were working towards a middle ground of her getting enough stimulation while not sacrificing the feeling of shared intimacy. It was hard for me at first to not wonder things like "did she have this problem with other men or just me?" "is she physically enjoying having me inside her?" and sometimes she would do this so much i would start to feel like "why am i even here?" like if it was up to her she would rather just masturbate than have sex with me. Even if its not true the fact is were talking about serious relationships and we all feel a bit vulnerable about intimacy and we cant always be the perfect secure confident beings we should.

so make sure you dont get too selfish. but definitely calibrate and find your orgasm sweet spot for intercourse.

It also makes me feel better that my girl will stop fingering herself when shes close to orgasm as to at least try to have an orgasm with just me inside her. even if it doesnt always work the effort doesnt hurt and it makes me feel much more secure.

so thats one mans perspective on this if it helps

It isn't the 'thrusting' that does it - it is when the head of his penis caresses your G-Spot that works the magic. A dab of lube, a bit more care with the mechanics and off you go!

Only the ONE orgasm?!?!

Or you could always think outside the box and try something a little different. I'm a naturally curious person so I was looking into solutions for such a problem and one that I found was a cock ring with a vibrational apparatus that could be used for clitoral stimulation. You could look into that on a site like babeland.com. Looks like it could be fun.

Best wishes and happy humping!

SexySass - and if you get the one wirelessly remote controlled, you can add to your little dom/sub thing you have going too! *wink*

Wow, that sounds both insecure and selfish. I'm really not sure what else to say because he seems to be ready to shoot down whatever solutions you bring up.

Time for a new and more open-minded boyfriend, hun! This one sounds like a real drag!

Your BF should not mind that you are willing to openly help yourself reach climax. Nothing is more intimate than climaxing together. My biggest trigger is climaxing with my lover. She knows it and I'm glad she is willing to help... :D
You need someone who you can be open about your needs and who is at least willing to try to respond... :rolleyes:

Why not? Oh yes he's a great guy, who shoots you down every chance he gets, and you are soo in love him? Why would you love someone who from what you tell us is close-minded to the point that he's willing to disregard you like that? And what does that say about you? You are the one here asking for help dealing with this issue. So it must matter to you. Apparently he doesn't care.

This is my first time on this site - here I thought I was not normal. I have not been able to orgasm through straight sex. I have never told my husband as it would break his heart - i was his first and only. He gives me lots of manual stimulation usually but he wants to try different positions - which i am all for, but they don't pleasure me...so I fake... Do i tell him? I'm scared he will not want to try different things as he wants to make sure I am enjoying my self.
what do I do?

Oh dear. Does he know about your G-Spot? Do you like sex? There are so many reasons why you would not orgasm that it is hard to help.

I do like sex - very much and i get turned on but never to the point of an orgasm - I am one of those 85% that don't have orgasms during straight sex. He knows about the g spot and i think he may think he's hitting it - hes not. I do have orgasms during sex when I or he uses manual stimulation but never just from sex. We have been trying many great things, talking and telling each other what we like and he is wonderful about that but to go further and to enjoy it more I feel i need to be honest - I need the manual stimulation ever time but I don't want him to feel that it is his fault that i am not orgasming during straight sex. I don't want us to go backwards I want to go forwards in the relationship (8 year marriage). Do i tell him that i was faking and then start over again or work on what we have and that's my little secret?

I quote:

"What exactly is the g-spot?

It is the bean-shaped, spongy tissue of the paraurethral
gland, which is analogous to the male prostate. The actual
area is only about the size of a quarter, but it feels rougher
to the touch than the surrounding tissue. Because the G-spot
is composed of erectile tissue, it swells up when blood
rushes into it during stimulation.
It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal
opening inside the front vaginal wall. The "front"
wall is the wall of the vagina on the same side as her belly
button."

"What isthe best way to find the g-spot?
First of all, the G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman
is sexually aroused, so don't stint on your foreplay
first. (You knew I would get that in!)
To locate the G-spot, face your partner while she is lying
on her back and insert your index or long middle finger into
her vagina as far as it will easily go. Then crook it upward
toward yourself in a "come hither" motion,
sliding your fingertip along the top of the vagina until
you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal
wall. (Make sure you have your fingernails clipped short
and buffed before you do this -- sharp fingernails will
definitely spoil the effort.) This rough or slightly ridged
area is the "G-spot, " and touching it will
often cause a woman to react with surprise or pleasure."

Does this help?