some one please help me. Ok i have a problem. I love to eat my wife out but I just cant do it right. She had never orgasmed before we got together and I can make her with sex but nothing else. I at one time could turn her on with oral and now its like I am not doin anything to her. I just want to know if anyone has any pointers to help me out plz. I just want her to cum, some one plz help me here.
Wed, 07/25/2007 - 08:54
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No orgasm from oral - I need help tonite
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my girlfriend really can't orgasm just from oral either, it takes a lot of work. i just finger her while giving oral, it always does the trick. for tongue movements apply firm pressure to the clit and try a circle and side to side. also try to flick your tongue down pushing the clit down, my gf loves that.
If I were you I'd talk to your wife and get her to give you some feedback. You are married and should be able to discuss sex issues. She is the best provider of information.
pretend your tounge is a flickering flame.. you will feel stupid doing it but it works add a finger also for a more intense orgasm.
Communication is important. Ask her what she likes and encourage her to speak up - eg. harder or lower or higher etc. It is a lot of work. Remember she can't cum unless she wants to. Start out gentle and respond to her.
Hi, im new to this but i guess ill get right to the question. when i first had sen i lasted for a good solid hour. but now i can only lasted half that. i stopped jerking off less too...does that have to do with not lasting longer?
Thanks
> Hi, im new to this but i guess ill get right to the question.
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> when i first had sen i lasted for a good solid hour. but now i can only lasted half that.
Do you mean that you lasted "a good solid hour" having intercourse, or, just fooling around along with foreplay?
> i stopped jerking off less too...does that have to do with not lasting longer?
Masturbating more will lower your semen volume over a 24-48 hr. period; subsequent orgasms following the first will generally be less intense the more times you do it in a day; and, all this activity will lower your sensitivity to stimulation making it more difficult to trigger an orgasm when masturbating. Similarly, you will also last somewhat longer when engaged in intercourse.
Rather than temporarily lowering your sensitivity and making it more challenging to reach and trigger an orgasm, I recommend a different approach. Please read this article:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation
The Squeeze technique and the results of the training session will maintain your high level sensitivity yet make it easier for you to maintain control. Now, having said that, if your desire is to reach and have a climax much sooner than half an hour, then you need to try this approach:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
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One Stop Shopping--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
I hope this is of help.
well at didn't enjoy having a guy go down on my at first...I meant it felt nice, but it was just to gentle. But when I told the guy I needed it hard he stiffened his tongue while going down on me and I had an orgasim rather quickly. I guess it just depends on what we are used to that triggers our orgasims. For me masterbation is always clitoral and with a lot of pressure so that is what I needed in oral. Ask your wife or have demonstrate to you what she does to get off...when you aren't around...
well see thats also a problem. she doesnt masterbate, never has. she says she doesnt get anything from it and is so shy she wont tell me how she wants it. well thanks for the advice guys, kepp it comin
Maybe she NEEDS to make an effort...it's not all up to you to figure out.
I mean there are times that touching yourself doesn't do much.. like trying to tickle yourself..lol.. just doesn't work.
Which I never understood b/c I am very ticklish but nothing when you do it yourself.
Anyhow, like if you aren't turned on and just touch yourself... she's right.. there isn't much pleasure...but when you are turned on.... then the touching feels good.
Same if my b/f touches me and Im not horny or just not in the mood.. it does nothing for me.
[QUOTE=fancyhead;188005]well see thats also a problem. she doesnt masterbate, never has. she says she doesnt get anything from it and is so shy she wont tell me how she wants it. well thanks for the advice guys, kepp it comin[/QUOTE]
Just speaking from my experience - We have been married for 8 years. I never wanted my husband to go down on me. My husband was okay about that but this past year he starting to go down there when I was tired! He didn't have any expectations I don't think. It was relaxing! Then it was exciting (more practice I guess) But lately I want him to go down there more often and I know how I can get off. Still need more practice of course.
Try not to stress, it may take some time for her to really enjoy it.