Ok im an 18 year old guy. ive been with my gf for over a year, and we've been having sex for about a year. At first we had sex all the time, and we both were very satisfied. Now though, its like she never has a drive for sex. When we do have sex, we always "mix it up" with positions and foreplay and locations, and stuff. I get her to come almost every time, sometimes she'll ejaculate. I've thought about her faking but ive looked into how to tell and im sure she does come( i also asked her if she fakes, she said she never has, and the only times that she hasn't are the times i know about). I have no idea why we never have sex anymore...she still loves to cuddle and besides sex, we're really close.
She has a really stressful job with like 40 hours a week especially for 18 years old... could that have anything to do with it?
Tue, 07/21/2009 - 21:42
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No More sex?
hey im 21.. and in a v stressful job too..
and let me tell u it does affect the sex drive!!! not only are u tired and exhausted to be honest i just cant be bothered.. its no bad on my bfs part tho as i love him too peices and still fancy him like mad.
i would suggest try make more time for romance and relaxation techniques.. eg a nice meal.. with flirty/ sexy conversation.. create the atmosphere.. then home.. with candles and a nice long full body massage cover evry inch of her body ( not only with ur hands! ;-) )
and move on to sex later.. i really beleive the added effort of u trying 2 relax her will help and she will feel more comfortable and at ease with no pressure.. it will come naturally!! good luck x
Stress can definitely kill your drive:p I'm not sure if your girlfriend is using birth control, but it can also affect some women's sex drives. I was on the pill for a while, & I didn't realize how much they affected my sex drive until I went off of them to have a baby. The most likely reason for this is that her sex drive has decreased (due to any number of reasons), not that you aren't satisfying her. You should talk to her about this, because it seems like this is really bothering you. Hope this helps:D
If the pill happens to be the culprit and not something else, ask her to consult her doctor because not all b/c pills/patches are created equal. Switching to another type can sometimes fix the condition.
If she acknowledges that this is affecting her adversely, also, then maybe a switch to another type of highly reliable form of contraception is indicated. Again, she should consult her doctor.
Sounds like the lady has 3 jobs..40 hours for pay, then the house and that work..and then you.
No wonder she's ehxhausted!!!!
thank you all for the advice... ill be sure to consider everything that has been said.
Plus she quit her job :)
Ah, but now lack of money could become stressful. Its a never ending cycle :cool:
Yep!
Better to get in some house help than to quit her job, buddy!
hmmm not a wise idea... as previously stated it is a vicious circle...
and with todays world standing as it does... the stress may get worse.
sorry i left out half of it... she has a new job with better pay and fewer hours
Still - get in some housecleaners once a week - should do wonders for your sex life.