Whose idea is it not to have sex? It sounds like he is just nervous because his past gf's were pretty cruel. Let him know how much pleasure he gives you, tell him that no matter what happens its going to be special, when you're doing foreplay, let him know how much pleasure he is giving you, how good he is, etc. Just talk to him, tell him you think he's wonderful and you want to experience that with him.

> I just don't know how to go around we have had sex once I just don't wanna make him think that is all am after anyone any advice how I can get around?

It is not clear to me what you are asking. Do you want to know how to get around his lack of expertise? Are you asking how to broaden the scope of your relationship so that the focus is not all on sex?

As to the first, the fragile male ego needs some stroking. All of us have to gain some sex education and learn how to make out. We do not have this knowledge innately. You have to acquire knowledge and then put it into practice and then do it repeatedly in order to get better. In the meantime, stroke his ego and work the the lad in order to build his confidence.

If you want to lessen the focus on sex, then I suggest waiting several more months before attempting to have intercourse. You seem to be rushing into things. This may not be a bad approach when you have some life experience behind you, just not in the beginning.

If you are making out at every opportunity, then weaning yourself off of the dependence is a good approach. Do it less often and make each of these sessions more meaninful.

The two of you should read the wealth of information available on the forum's "how to" section as well as "Am I ready for sex".

Well. Like Claire and Doc say, stroke his ego, explain how he makes you feel when you are making out, show him what makes you feel good. If he knows he is doing that correctly he may be more likely to want to have sex, if that is what you do want from the relationship at the moment. When you do have sex, let him know what he is doing right, and please talk about it after the fact, it really does help, even though it seems bloody hindering awkward at the time. If you want to make sure that he knows that sex isnt the only thing that matters to you, then they only way to make sure he knows that is to A. not jump him at every opportunity and B. to Talk to him about it. Talking is a good thing. It's the human way of communicating, though it can be hard to actually do.