Either she doesnt have one or I can't find it. Thing is I dont think shes aware of it because everytime i mention it she says nothing and looks at me like i'm crazy so she doesn't really help in finding it. Should it be difficult to find or does she just need to be extremly randy? Fingering her is good but it takes time and its almost a workout, does any one have good diagrams or something to help us out.
Thu, 09/29/2005 - 00:03
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No Clit?
From my own personal experience, the clit is not something that a man can have the woman "find" or know if it's the right spot or not-and the sensation of orgasm certainly takes lots of practice to reach. Just know that the woman has to do her own research on what works for her. She probably hasn't ever masturbated enough--- or at all?
Suggest to her a little bit of clitoral stimulation (rubbing the top of it from side to side or in circles right around it) -a little at a time.....until EUREKA-she finds it! Hey look on this website for a diagram--seriously, there's a diagram! The best way to accomplish this lil "task" is some knowledge and willingness on her part to learn-without too much pressure from you to do so. 
its there, lol.
some women's are just more prominant than others.
I mean she should know. When you rub that general location you can feel a different sensation when you hit the clit.
If you are looking at the vaginal lips as an upside V the clit is at the peak.
Get down there and look for it. Use a flash light if you must, bloke.
I'm with shadowlynn!If it helps any , then yes, look at the diagram,see what her reactions are when you rub certain areas of her genital areas. and might i add if fingering works for her, then you should be working on that too, whatever makes her happy, some lucky women don't NEED clitoral stimulation..actualy don't take my word for that. but every girl is different!
Try this site: www.teenwire.com
It is run by Planned Parenthood, has good descriptions and diagrams and good advice. Many of the questions that come up here are answered better and more directly for neophytes than we can do here.
I recommend that site many times for introductory type stuff.
There are three different ways to searching for and finding the clitoris.
W#1: Please one or the other of the inner labia (Minora) between your thumb and finger and then trace along its length until you come to the juncture of the two lips. The clitoris is just inside the juncture.
W#2: Trace a finger from her abomen between the folds of the upper Vulva. The ridge you feel is the shaft of the clitoris that is buried beneath the skin. Again, the clitoris will be found at the juncture of the two labia and just inside or below it.
W#3: Ask her. She can take your fingers and place them correctly.
I hope this is of help.