sexting!

[maxjunk]

Well my parents never check my messages and I never send out nudies, I only share them occasionally with a few close friends when we're bored. Women who send them to me don't care if others so the pics. So I see no problem with it.

[ClosetFreak]

Interesting subject. I have a question, more like a parable than anything, but proves a point all the same.
"If you where bitten by a poisonous snake, what would you do?"
a) Administer first aid to the wound so as not to get infected?
b) Kill the snake?
c) Administer anti-venom to counter act the poison?

The "sexting" isn't the issue. Its a problem like 2 puncture holes in your skin but it isn't the issue.

Most school systems in the country are over crowded AND under funded. Parents can't expect schools to teach our children everything. A lot of schools have trouble teaching our children to read and write.

Originally Posted by ButterflyKisses

I don't think kids have respect for themselves anymore, and its a relatively new thing.

Unfortunately this isn't completely true. The social moral fabric of our society has been on a down slide since the Industrial Revolution. Take a sociology class. Its discussed in depth there and is a great elective class. To sum it up. When people left the farm to go to the city's for factory work they let children less attended than they where and unoccupied as they where no longer needed/used to work on the farms. As we are now 4-5 generations and more past this event, children unless acted upon by an outside force like jail or death eventually have children of there own. If they don't know how to teach there children respect and other matters then there children are more likely to not know ether. Most couples have more than one child so the act of not teaching your children to respect and responsibility expands exponentially. Thus leaving us with a society that has several children that have no respect and parents that don't teach it because they themselves don't truly know what respect is.

I could go further in the derogation of social morality but I feel it would get to far off topic.

I think sexting is very bad in the context of sexually explicit material. Even between to married adults it could have negative impacts:

With children, sexual martial can be hijacked threw wireless technology (ie blue tooth) or simply distributed via of other irresponsible children. As we are abundant with irresponsible children the likely hood of your info reaching other people is high. This info being spreed around the school and/or to your parents is the least of your worries. Sexual assault to kids statistically is done to a child by someone that child knows and the offender is often an adolescent themselves. Also, the behavior of a sexual offender is parallel with that of a serial killer. A child sexting could have a latent effect of a sexual predator stalking you and carrying out some fantasy based on the info they may have intercepted from a sexting conversation. As my family is victim to a child sex offender this is something that no one should have to bear. The only fortunate thing in our situation is that it wasn't a family member offender. All the same it doesn't make the hurt or the fall out any easier.

This site has excellent information regarding sexual predictors. Its also scary as the truth often is.
Pedophile and Child Molester Statistics - Yello Dyno

With adults, your sexting information still has a the same chances of being hijacked with maybe a little less percentage. That is only a guess. At least with an adult there or fewer sexual offenders willing to act but lets not kid our selves, adult rape is still very high and most crimes are not reported because of shame. An adult should have a better ability to spot a predator and has more options for protection, like defense classes (I highly recommend) to mace and/or alert sound devices(air horns whistles).

Having said all that, my wife and I have had sexually explicit conversations threw texting. We are married with children so I don't necessarily see the behavior as negative as long as it doesn't effect our responsibilities. Our cellphone situation has changed and when we have to be away when internet is available we choose instant messaging programs to communicate.

I am defiantly NOT condemning texting. It has valuable uses. However like with all of life's indulgent s it can and has been abused.

The teaching of respect and self respect falls to the adults in the child's home. Whether you are the child's biological parent or custodial parent not to your public school system.

So giving the repercussions of sending sexually explicit material threw a cell phone I do not believe law enforcement is over reacting nether do I disagree with dancing doc. It only shows that he is a caring parent not a d*ck as said by a previous poster.

[Blondie21]

My boyfriend and I send naughty pics all the time,I'm 21 he's 22, as he lives a few hours away so we can't see each other often,BUT I make sure my face is in none of the pics so if they ever do get leaked out it won't be as bad.I trust him but you never fully know about his friends/family.I text a lot but that is how I prefer to talk and I also have a set plan that doesn't cost me an arm and a leg. I think if your gonna do it you have to be aware that it could get leaked but take precautions.

[CegMister]

I only read the first page so I dont know if the opinions of this changed with some users, but as a teen I dont believe making the child unable to do this act solves anything, its just part of a big brother culture in my opinion. The way to truly solve this is to teach kids not just make them unable to, if you tell a kid dont go over this fence, they'll wonder why not I wanna know whats on the other side, if you tell the kid hey dont go over this fence there s a mean guard dog that will rip you to shreds on the other side, they will understand. I believe being informed is the key to solving a lot of problems.

[wet_suit_one]

Interesting discussion.

First off, the law in the U.S. is beyond retarded. The results that ensue are totally nonsensical and are clearly NOT what anyone intended to make illegal. A girl sending her boyfriend a topless pic of herself is (when she's 15 let's say) is not what the law was intented to capture. If anyone thinks that throwing that girl in jail and destroying her life serves any purpose, let me know where you live so I can come over and smack you upside the head.

As for the concerns of parents, I somewhat understand where you're coming from. However, sooner or later your kids are going to experiment and it's gonna happen no matter what you do.

Furthermore, the idea that talking on the phone or texting prevents a person from being successful seems a bit odd to me. It's possible I suppose, but sound dubious.

Also, how would all you parents feel about your uber successful child turning to prostitutes when he's 25 or 26 because he never learned to interact with opposite sex peers? It's a real risk. I know from experience.

Finally, I think that people's reaction to naked pics is WAAAAAY overblown. Laura Schlessinger (yes that Laura who's a social conservative harridan of the highest order) gave nude pics of herself to her boyfriend. They got out. Laura's life went on and NO ONE CARES!!!!

We think people care about these things, but I don't think we do. E.g. Tiger Woods (to pick a topical point). In 2 years (heck probably even 1 year) NO ONE will care. Some will remember but mostly, no one will care.

Sexting is a little different than being a porn star and I like to think that we can all tell the difference..

Then again, I'd like to think that we could just voluntarily stop killing each other and everyone would be cool with that, but I've been proven wrong on this point every single day of my life, so what do I know about anything...

[tristannf]

It's funny how older people always think that young people are so much worse than they were at that age. Doesn't anybody remember woodstock, burning bras, free love and nudist colonies? Young people from the 60's and 70's gave their bodies away a lot more than the teens of today.

Technology makes some things easier, but the basic principle is the same. Kids are always curious and they will find a way to see what they want so see. My older sister had friends and I'm sure all of you remember "You show me yours, I'll show you mine..." I saw my first girl parts when I was 7 or 8 and it wasn't through a pic message or on the internet.

The newest generation of teens isn't doing anything new, they are just doing it in a different way. In some ways, the younger people are doing a better job in their lives. The percentage of people who attend college after high school has increased with every generation. If they don't have respect for themselves, why would they care about their futures?

I think that both teens and adults just need to learn that text messages, emails, or any kind of communication can be saved and sent anywhere. (It's also saved on a server somewhere, so it's never truly private.) Texting has gotten more than just teens in trouble. Maybe we should have a discussion on Stupid politicians or celebs sending emails, text messages and voicemails to the person they are seeing on the side.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh come on, Tris!

I think you youngsters are wussies!

But that's just me: The Feline of Darkness. (kneeling only mandatory for males)

But gven the rules of the US and the habits of 'sharks' etc. - best to not send private things over public utilities.

[tristannf]

I'm 33, but I still remember a lot of what it's like to be young. Plus, the trype of work that I do keeps me around a lot of young people. Sometimes people even think of me as 5-7 years younger than I am because of the way I talk.

[sQuiD FigHTer]

Originally Posted by tristannf

I'm 33, but I still remember a lot of what it's like to be young. Plus, the trype of work that I do keeps me around a lot of young people. Sometimes people even think of me as 5-7 years younger than I am because of the way I talk.

And how is it that u talk

[Jay P]

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