Wanting to reach the peak!

[Mega-Erotic-Princess]

I am always reaching orgasm by myself and yet havent had a guy to help me reach it all because Im a virgin still, Ive actually almost gotten to have sex, but of course, it was screwed up. Im 18 and going to be 19 and I havent had a bf since I was a sophmore in high school. I have the sexual urges, alot, and cant seem to control my daydreams of being able to reach the peak with a certain someone. How should I control such urges, they seem to be getting harder to control. Sometimes..I get the urge of pulling a guy over and well...you know..

[Mega-Erotic-Princess]

lalala, help, anyone?

[Brandye]

You waited nineteen minutes before bugging for a response. That is the definition of impatience and I suspect that is what is getting in the way.

Develop some interest that brings you in contact with men; something that will provide a basis for a relationship other than pure sex. You can be forward - I took the initiative in getting myself laid the first time - men often like that.

Most of all be careful. In your state women tend to take unnecessary risks with both pregnancy and disease. Getting your virginity out of the way is a great relief but not worth risking the rest of your life. Condoms plus vaginal spermicide are a must for what will likely be a rushed experience. Have them with you.

In the meantime your self pleasing is the best training you can have for sexual satisfaction later on.

[dancingdoc2]

> I am always reaching orgasm by myself and yet havent had a guy to help me reach it all because Im a virgin still

Please explain what being a virgin has to do with with reaching an orgasm. If you can climax from masturbation, a guy can substitute his fingers for your with the same results. The only thing you have to add is to give him verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you need now. Feedback is missing when you turn the reins over to someone else.

If you mean by what you stated, above, that being a virgin has somehow kept you from finding a guy then this is so much nonsense. Unless you wear a sign or tell someone of your status, no guy will be able to tell whether you have or have never had intercourse.

> I have the sexual urges, alot, and cant seem to control my daydreams of being able to reach the peak with a certain someone. How should I control such urges, they seem to be getting harder to control.

Don't we all have these urges a lot. Guys fantasize all the time about a real or imagined person and/or scenario in order to embellish their arousal. Why should you be any different? That you want to have other fantasies, my advice is the same I give for people wanting to stop thinking about an ex--change your mind. In other words, if you do not want to be thinking about a particular fantasy, then stop, and change your mind to something else. This can be difficult to do, although, eventually you can do this very easily. Work at it over and over. You may have to turn off the scrip or change your mind several times in fifteen minuts or half an hour. Just keep plugging away.

> How should I control such urges, they seem to be getting harder to control.

Are you talking about not having sexual thoughts and not masturbating? If the latter, why? Many guys masturbate one or more times a day. If you enjoy the thoughts and the pleasure that comes from masturbating, then do it as often as you need or want to. No harm, no foul.

> Sometimes..I get the urge of pulling a guy over and well...you know..

Yea, I know. When guys answer the call of the wild and do this they get into serious trouble with the law. The age old remedy for this has always been to keep active and do things to keep your mind occupied. This is what we kept telling the boys. Combine being busy with changing your mind whenever thoughts of whatever play in your head and you'll have the tricks to make changes; although, not quickly. This takes time and practice.

[Mega-Erotic-Princess]

Originally Posted by Brandye

You waited nineteen minutes before bugging for a response. That is the definition of impatience and I suspect that is what is getting in the way.

Develop some interest that brings you in contact with men; something that will provide a basis for a relationship other than pure sex. You can be forward - I took the initiative in getting myself laid the first time - men often like that.

Most of all be careful. In your state women tend to take unnecessary risks with both pregnancy and disease. Getting your virginity out of the way is a great relief but not worth risking the rest of your life. Condoms plus vaginal spermicide are a must for what will likely be a rushed experience. Have them with you.

In the meantime your self pleasing is the best training you can have for sexual satisfaction later on.

Thanks for the information and I understand my impatience, I really need to work on that.

[dancingdoc2]

Especially because the time/date stamp of your o/p was midnight on the west coast which means most of the people in the western hemisphere are asleep.

Members of our community are spread out all around the world and from top to bottom. This means that someone is awake somewhere, yet may or may not be qualified to answer questions. Also, some of us interested in replying want some time to formulate thoughts and if they are slow typists, together both can take longer than nineteen minutes to assemble.

In my case, I read your post and chose to let someone else comment, first. My interest was to learn what direction the advice would take before adding my thoughts. When I decided to reply, I had questions because I felt your concerns were not clearly stated.

Please do not think I am picking on you, I am also talking to those who are also reading this and may be new members to the community of members. We certainly want you and others to avail yourself of all the resources provided by the site for as long as you can benefit from our collective expertise. Our concern is that you and others realize that answers can take some time to formulate once a person somewhere in the world, perhaps in a time zone hours from yours, decides to tackle the question(s). That said, it is recommended that posters proof read their posts in order to make sure they have expressed clear thoughts. It can be frustrating when I for one have to ask for clarification and/or provide two sets of replies because it is unclear if the o/p means "this" or "that". Diverse answers take more time to compile.

So, welcome to the site, and let us be of help to you in the future. Enjoy the resources already in place, both on the forum side as well as on the home page side.

Enjoy.

[Newtolove]

your impatience is also born out by posting in the first category available and the most unaproppriate rather than reading a couple of lines down to the correct category