I am brand new to these forums and don't know if this is the right forum to post on for my question but here goes:
I am a 19 year old guy, almost 20, that had sex for the first time a little over a year ago. Since then I have only been with the same girl, and haven't had sex with any other person than her.
During sex, its not that I don't feel satisfied, or that I feel she is unsatisfied. But we have have sex quite often, and it feels like it has become routine. It always starts the same way, and as neither of us are that sexually experienced, the process strays from a set order of things.
First we kiss, then petting, undressing, genital play, etc. I don't have trouble getting aroused during any of this but I am looking to try new things that can help us break from routine and make each time different and more involved.
I am somewhat afraid, as is she, of trying new things during sex.
I would appreciate any help or tips anyone has for me. I'm not looking for anything strange or "kinky," but just ways to spice it up a bit.
Thanks in advance
First I think you have to figure out why you both are afraid to try new things. Then, since we all are not with you we really don't know what you try. Do you try different positions? Oral? Different places? Role playing? Showering together? Taking a bath together?
So to spice it up it's difficult for anyone to tell you, and what's kinky to you both? Have you read any of the threads on this topic and found anything interesting?
We are an older married couple. Here are some things that we do:
Play with sex toys together.
Oral sex.
Mutual masturbation.
Different positions-especially doggy.
Dirty talk.
Watch explicit DVD'S.
Fantasize.
*turn things around and make love with your heads toward the foot of the bed. Often this small change is enough to spice things up.
* Begin with a general body massage and then work into an erotic massage and then....
* Begin with a soak in the bathtub. Warm the room, use a candle or night light only. Let her sit in front between your legs and then just talk and drizzle warm water over her shoulders so she does not become chilled. Fool around a little but just use the time to reconnect with each other. Later, stand up and take a shower. You can wash each other using soapy hands only. Pat each other dry with a towel--do not rub.
* Make love in different places or rooms.
* Experiment with different positions.
* Roll play. Play "doctor" or "nurse" depending upon who is initiating the session. Use a popsicle stick for a tongue depressor. Use your fingers to take a pulse, and then, just give him/her a physical "exam" and go from there.
* Make love at different a different hour of the day or night.
* If one of you is home while the other is out, then when returning, zoom into the garage or parking spot and rush into the house and find your partner and begin undressing him/her right there and then and make mad passionate love where they sit/stand.
* Begin fooling around while driving home from where ever. Be careful however not to get too carried away or you'll find the driver's right leg pressing uncontrollably on the accelerator pedal!
* Fool around on the beach. Take a couple of blankets and lay on one while completely covering the two of you with the other.
* Similarly, pack a picnic basket or stop by KFC and take a lunch or dinner to an out of the way place like a farmer's field by a country road, or, off a mountain trail.