I am born with Congenital Mutations and have a problem with having sex the first time

[Faith.Girl]

It may sound very weird and quite unbelievable but, I know people will think I'm lying because what I'm about to tell you will sound quite fake, however in my case it is real.

Here are my problems -

• I have a boyfriend whom, I will have sex with for the first time.
• I have congenital mutations to my breasts and reproductive system.
• The congenital mutations are that I was born with are conditions called "Accessory Breast", and "Uterus didelphys".
• I have three breasts, left, right and centre because of the "Accessory Breast condition"
• I live by myself because, My parents and foster parents disowned me. Most likely to be my congenital mutations.
• I'm afraid that, my boyfriend might decide to break up with me because of my congenital mutations

Can anyone help me? Am I a Human Being? What do I do if my boyfriend is shocked about my congenital mutations?

Please don't ask about my parents and foster parents and how they disowned me, because it is a very sensitive issue.

[Brandye]

First, forget about the uterus didelphys. He will not even notice. In fact, it is surprising that this was even discovered during your childhood. About four or five percent of all women have uterine abnormalities and many of them never even know about it. The didelphys is rare and needs to be watched by a competent gynaecologist but it is in no way noticeable. When considering pregnancy, this is another issue.

Accessory breast comes in many manifestations. It is not uncommon to have an accessory nipple anywhere along the milk ducts. Sometimes they are well developed and sometimes look more like a mole. These are usually no more than a sometimes uncomfortable nuisance, depending upon the specific location, than a real problem. A completely formed third breast is much less common and the issue is handled differently based upon whether the breast is complete or whether it is simply breast tissue without a nipple. The location on the body also varies. Sometimes between the breasts, armpit, even the buttocks.

Perhaps your best approach is to discuss these two conditions with your doctor and seek some assistance with a counselor before you dispaly this to a rather unknowledgeable young man. We each have our abnormalities. You happen to have one that is potentially noticeable and the other that will present some difficulty in child bearing. You sexual functioning, short of pregnancy, should not be affected but should be discussed with the doctor who has been following you.

[mikkiji]

My late wife had extra nipples, one quite fully formed, under her breasts. Other "anatomical abnormalities" in her body were discovered during her extensive cancer surgery prior to her death--some REALLY strange mislocations of organs, ducts and blood vessels. The extra nipples never shocked or bothered me at all--they were somewhat sensitive at times, and so needed to be treated respectfully, but as soon as I said, "Who cares, never mind" she was never self-consciousness about the issue again.

[Brandye]

Not surprisingly, mikkiji, most of us do have multiple anomalies. As first year med students, we were all surprised at all that we found during the dissection of our cadavers. Many of us learn of our own, or some of them, whilst still able to understand. Some are more severe and some are simply unusual.