he couldnt 'get it in'?

[loladee]

so me and my boyfriend tried to have sex but he couldnt fit it inside me? we tried for a while then gave up. im ready for it and we used lubricant. ive tried to stretch myself in the bath and all sorts of things. hes not especially big but still couldnt fit inside me. what can i do?


btw, i know theres probably a lot of threads on this but ive looked and cant find anything to help my problem. thanks.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome back. Have you looked at the Index and read the articles on this?

You have done the right thing by trying to stretch the vaginal opening. One technique is described in this article:

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

I also suggest reading the articles under the heading: SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE

Where did you apply the lube? Did you produce an ample amount of mucus, also? The wetness you produce and any additional necessary should be distributed around your vaginal opening. His penis from tip to stern should be well lubricated as well. If you are not producing large amounts of mucus, I recommend devoting more time to fooling around and making out--no less than half an hour and longer time permitting.

Are you a virgin? What is the condition of your hymen? Do you know if it is fully intact, partially, or has it eroded away?

Have you had a gyne exam? If not, time to go get checked out by your doctor and use the visit to ask any questions. Every girl/woman should have this exam prior to first time intercourse, so says Brandye, our Resident M.D.

After reading the articles, please do not hesitate to ask questions. I hope this is of help.



The ideal first time position is the Woman Superior/Cowgirl position because it places the woman in control of a number of elements.

[Brandye]

Have you had a gun exam? We recommend that all women have an exam before becoming sexually active. Many minor things can be taken care of at that exam.

You have stretched and you have used lube. There are two possibilities: tough hymen or muscle tension. Either of these added to inexperience for both of you. The doctor can estimate whether the hymen is presenting enough resistance to cause this problem. Some hymens are really quite thick and can cause trouble. The muscle tension is usually an autonomic response to something trying to get into you. Many women experience this difficulty the first few times and a few (1-2%) experience to a greater degree and it is then called vaginismus. You can search this online (ignore the self-help books and programs; they are useless) and talk to the doctor about it. Most gyn's have encountered this. Id this is the problem, the sooner you take care of it, the better. Each failure makes it more likely that you will continue to fail. Dealt with early, you will go on to a long happy sex life.

[EvilEvilKitten]

That's GYNE exam.

Stretch myself - oh please! First they tell you stretch yourself and then they complain oh she's not tight any more which makes me want to smack some guy or other.

Stop trying to please and stop thinking it is your fault; instead get yourself a man who knows what he's doing.

[spotbeams]

I agree with kitten ! Get a guy that does more than just hump and go. Tell him to go down on you and take his time. You will be ready and it will slide in !

[dancingdoc2]

Your advice is good as far as it goes. The recommendations given above your reply need to be done, first. It is important to understand that there can be physical and/or emotional reasons why there is difficulty accomplishing the task. You must understand that technique or method is but one aspect and not necessarily the main reason things do not go as planned.