Fucking a girl while she's sleeping

[EvilEvilKitten]

Agreed, sania. But always, Always, ALWAYS check with her first.

[nyckitty]

My son's father used to do this to me. I found this to be a total violation. And whats worse is that he knew I was a very heavy sleeper. At the time I was working and attending school full time. When I would realize that he was fucking me and told him to stop to tried to push him off me he would hold my arms tight against my back (like when ur being arrested) and tell me to wait. In fact I believed my squirming aroused him even more! I hated him for that. I told him it was rape what he was doing and he would laugh and say no its not cuz ur my gf. But gf or wife or fwb no man should jus take it upon himself and fuck a woman while she is most vulnerable like that. It's disgusting. Now my bf now if he gets the urge he will gently wake me but stroking my back or kissing my body and ask can he and i nod and continue to sleep. But damn dont be fucking barbaric and start pumpin away while she is sleep u disgusting jerk!

[Lovingallways69]

I say don't do it with a talk about it! if you wanna test the field surprise her with a morning of oral. Make her happy!

[EvilEvilKitten]

The guys still are not GETTING this. They don't feel it, ladies. Ty, nyckitty for your story - please tell me you stomped on him HARD for this afterwards.

How would you feel guys, if every morning you woke up with a stretched and sore rectum? Think you'd wonder a bit? Perhaps ask that cute girl beside you what happened? "Oh Bruno stopped by and he had this wonderful joke."

[upyourmatey]

i would suggest you ask your gf first without permision she may freak out and not trust you i agree with you evilevilkitten

[Brandye]

Courts in most civilized nations have held that marital rape is rape. If he knows you are against it and continues whilst you sleep, that meets any civil definition of rape. He is a criminal. Period.

My earlier comment about simply not wanting to wake up with a penis in me was predicated upon a normal relationship. The descriptions have now gone beyond into descriptions of rape.

[Infamous Ob]

wow, this topic has took a wrong turn...lol I've always wanted to try this w/my Wife. I've talked to her about it a few times, but we still haven't agreed or discussed it further lately. I'll be sure to ask her, but wait asking her is better for the respect level, but what about the surprise factor? Thats why guys do it in the first place, because of the surprise factor that we're looking for when our partner awakes... But like I said, asking first isn't hard.

[Brandye]

No, it has not taken a "wrong" turn. BadCat is right on in saying the GUYS simply do not get it. Women live with the constant threat of rape. No, we do not think of it all the time, but it is the most common violent crime in the world and women are the only (rare exceptions such as prison) victims.

When totally unexpected, this "surprise" lies somewhere between unwanted sexual advance and rape. Every woman in the world has had experience on that continuum and most of us do not wish to replicate it.

Surprise! Your worst fear in life is coming true!

Note to Ob: given your first post, you have more serious stuff to talk about.

[Xsnap]

i recently went camping the withe GF, and we laughed and talked and stargazed it was amazing. she drifted off at some point, with me massaging her, and holding her.Me being the horn dog that i was didn't notice, so i continued to advance, and she, me not knowing she was out like a light seemed to welcome it *moans, shifting or so i thought, for better positioning*.She didn't come too till i started eating her out >.< she was a little freaked, but realized it was me, and told me that she had be completely asleep, to which i thought she was joking. We had some of the best sex that night, but it reminded me that i want to be sure that she's willing and awake before anything sexual happens, if your into this girl or love her, you DON'T want to be the one that hurts or scars her emotionally, and that WILL be what happens if she sees what you do as unwelcome. Out the window with the trust... so yeah, talk it over first >.<

[nyckitty]

I agree brandye. There is no "wrong turn" on this subject. Anyone that has been victim of rape or molestation as a young woman or child wouldn't find this act welcoming nor be aroused by it. As always we talk about communication. So if you dont know a female's sexual past as far as traumas go you maybe bringing back repressed memories of midnight predators coming in her room or being violently violated sexual. It may seem like I'm being dramatic but I'm one of those woman and that is something I can never forgive my son's father for cuz he knew my sexual traumas in my past and didn't care still. So think about what you do b4 you do it to her.