Advice needed

[bellaxdonna]

Hi, I am not exactly new to sex, but I wasn't sure where else I could post my question. Sorry if this is inapproproate!

I have been sexually active for about two years now, and have had no trouble with getting aroused or any aspect of sex... until now. Lately I have been unable to get wet. I can't think for a reason for this change, I haven't had any health problems! I am 21 and not currently on birth control (and haven't been for about 8 months). I haven't lost my desire to have sex...

I'm just wondering if anyone has had similar experiences... this is very frustrating for my boyfriend too, who seems to think it is his fault. Thanks in advance!

[123questions]

its all about mood. if your not in the right mood it wont happen.. mind on sex.. check out getting wet link ext.. your problem isn't that new just search it.. all sum up to mood pretty much.. "get out the vibes"..

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ahem... in the absence of medical conditions... there are three main causes:

1. lack of effective foreplay
2. lack of full hydration
3. you're just not into him

You can say what you want but your body is saying something quite different.
Either get lubricants or a new lover(s).

WHY aren't you on your BCPs???
Are you using something else equally effective?

Is he using condoms? He'd better be. Condom usage requires additional lubrication.

[Brandye]

"its all about mood," except when it is about physiology. Check where you are in your menstrual cycle, first, and then do a check of your life style. Could be as simple as dehydration. Could be as complex as your body telling you something that you are not facing up to in the relationship. As you figure it out, use vaginal jelly which both lubricates adequately and adds protection you seem to be lacking.

The marketing of personal lubricants is for a purpose.

[bellaxdonna]

thanks for the feedback!
I originally went off birth control because it seemed to have decreased my libido. I am going to see a doctor and go on it again, but I am too embarassed to mention the lubrication problem... hopefully I can overcome this

[EvilEvilKitten]

Your libido begins in your mind.

The real point is, if you wanna, lube up and go for it. If you don't, then don't.

[Rouge]

Out of curiousity, I have something similar.

I'm still 100% attracted to my partner
I drink fluids regularly
The foreplay is generally good (or amazing)
and my wetness doesn't change with different timing

Why am I no longer dripping, and why does it take longer for me to build up an average amount of wetness?