Shyness / Confidence / First time issues

[dancingdoc2]

> thought of a new plan using flavored condoms. will catch the ejaculation and he will be satisfied to. i hope, just a thought.. will the condom give less pleasure?

1. Condoms work.
2. Condoms give less pleasure.

That said, what is a girl to do? Speaking from a purely "technical" perspective, why place a penis in your mouth that is covered up, insulated, and, protected? While this may make sense, it is the last alternative in my never to be so humble opinion. I'm not a big fan of flavored condoms. The taste is artificial and not that much better than that of latex, again in my never to be so humble opinion. If you do not have to use a condom for health and safety reasons, I wouldn't. More to the point, where is the pleasure and intense stimulation for him? Not.

You do have alternatives if you do not want to taste or swallow.
A#1: Stop short of having him ejaculate inside your mouth. You can feel when the semen begins traveling if you place your finger on the bulge of the urethra near the base of the shaft. Sometimes you can hear when it begins traveling; sometimes he will give you physical and/or verbal cues.

A#2: You can raise your tongue placing the tip against the roof of your mouth. He can ejaculate hit the bottom surface of your tongue and you will taste very little or none at all.

A#3: If you do not mind swallowing, take a sip of water, soda, wine, etc., and let the semen mix with the liquid and then swallow.

Semen is an acquired taste. It is slightly salty yet will not poison you or burn the inside of your mouth, so why not just acquire the taste--or, dilute it as noted?

[EvilEvilKitten]

They do, yes, but in certain applications - that's a good thing! *evil grin*

[kayza27]

OK i am going to true all those tips and see which one works best for me... i would be quite happy to swallow, if not for the taste, be he is going to look into that..

[dancingdoc2]

> i would be quite happy to swallow, if not for the taste, be he is going to look into that..

The topic of changing the taste was discussed yesterday or the day before. Look around. There is nothing he can do.

It is why I made the recommendation of sipping some water, soda, wine, etc. before he ejaculates. Let the two mix and swallow the whole.

[kayza27]

No he is looking into flavored condoms!!! :}

[pennivelvet]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

"If she truly loves the guy..."

Not a good reason since sex doesn't of necessity involve or require love.
More important is "does she want to"? Why or why not?

The major factor is TRUST

Trust not only in your paner but also in yourself nd that comes from trying and doing and considering ways and means both before and after.

I must be a sort of weird person then, because I can only have sex with someone I'm in love with. However, your point about trust is very well taken. Without trust, there wouldn't be love.

[ArianaCary]

I think all these thing are dose not matter in sex.

[jessiegirl]

I think the best cure would be communicating during sex and oral. Because I was extremely shy too, but he told me to go for it and he would tell me to "try it this way, or try doing this" and that would help me figure out what he liked. And after a while I became familiar with what did and didn't work with him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

penni - maybe because that is what you were taught. The controls upon women are strict and still practiced today.

You have to be in love.
You have to be in a relationship.
You have to be married.

Because if you weren't and you just enjoyed sex when, where, how and with whomever you wanted - you'd be a slut, etc.

[geelongmale]

just do what you like dont be pushed by anyone