How to give a blowjob?

[kelly_V]

Hello,

I'm new on this forum.

my best friend is really doubting her ability to give a blowjob.
She is raised catholic and a little shy.

If I read the posts on this forum I believe we have a few specialists here.

Could you please advise me where I could buy some decent books for Amy?

I googled a little and found:

How to give a Blowjob - Ebook
(Ebook which is relatively cheap)

How To Give A Blow Job, Secret Oral Sex Techniques
(I can choose a digital or printed version, but much more expensive)

Who can recommend one of those two or has other url’s ?

Thank you
Kelly

[VanellaSchnella]

Originally Posted by kelly_V

Hello,

I'm new on this forum.

my best friend is really doubting her ability to give a blowjob.
She is raised catholic and a little shy.

If I read the posts on this forum I believe we have a few specialists here.

Could you please advise me where I could buy some decent books for Amy?

I googled a little and found:

How to give a Blowjob - Ebook
(Ebook which is relatively cheap)

How To Give A Blow Job, Secret Oral Sex Techniques
(I can choose a digital or printed version, but much more expensive)

Who can recommend one of those two or has other url’s ?

Thank you
Kelly

Just have her get on this site and read about it on the forums and on the main page. No need to waste money on a book.

[dancingdoc2]

* Does your friend ride a bicycle?
* Drive a car?
* Fly an airplane?
* Row a boat?

I doubt any of us learning to ride a bike did it perfectly the first several times we sat upon one. Same goes for piloting an airplane, learning to drive, getting the oars coordinated in order to row a boat. My point being that we all at some point thru caution to the wind, lived thru scraped knees and other troubles in order to acquire the skill(s).

Oral stimulation is the same; so too is stimulating our partner by hand. Coordinating the two in what I refer to as the "dynamic duo", is sort of like patting your head and rubbing your tummy at the same time, in the beginning. I run up against confidence issues all the time as a Ballroom dance instructor, yet my students eventually acquire the skills and the confidence to have fun dancing.

It is unrealistic to believe that a person is going to be a great lover or be able to give great b/js the first time, for two reasons.
1. Please read the article listed in the Index at the top of the main page that discusses "experience".
2. Knowing how and then performing require one more ingredient: feedback. When a person masturbates, s/he benefits from internal feedback that lets us make tiny midcourse corrections to how we stimulate ourself thus keeping us on track. This is missing when we turn the reins over to our partner. To compensate we need to provide our partner with verbal and/or non-verbal cues as to how we are responding to our caresses. This is also discussed in one of the articles.

Here is an article that she should read:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Shyness stems from a lot of different conditions and without some diagnostics it is impossible to determine a particular cause. I'm not certain religious training plays a direct part. I suggest that your girlfriend look at it from this point of view: That she may be self conscious about her body; or, she may lack self confidence; or, she may feel she will be laughed at or criticized if she does not perform perfectly. Which ever one or more of these is of concern to her, the answer is two fold; first, that perfection is unrealistic, although, practice makes a person good at what they do; second, that she not hold unrealistic expectations, understanding that she and her partner explore and learn together.

The latter is extremely important because as the article on experience states, what works for one couple may not work exactly the same way with another partner in the future. The important message she should understand from reading this article is that with each new pairing, there is a new "Square One" from which they begin. That said, and with the information she gains from reading the how-to article on giving oral sex, she should be able to leap right in knowing that by working together in partnership, her technique will just get better as they practice.

I tell the men in my classes that when they go to a dance they should go not to "dance" but to "practice". Why? Because the fragile male ego tells each guy that if he has to dance knowing he is not very good it equates in his mind that he has to "perform" so he'd much rather just sit out the evening instead of coming off poorly in the eyes of his partner. So, I tell them to go to a dance and practice. Practicing means they can make mistakes, dust themselves off and continue. The same thing holds here with sex for both genders. Practice. Become better as a result. Make mistakes, laugh them off and keep going. It's not that a person makes a mistake, it is in how s/he recovers and continues that is important.

Because the girl is shy, my next recommendation is to learn why? Is she worried about her ability to please? If so, then the answer is above. If she is timid about seeing a man's body then do so in stages and as she is ready for the next stage. This is covered in detail in the articles discussing the how-to's of making out and progressing from Necking to Petting to Heavy Petting and on to Foreplay. If she is timid about (partially) undressing, or seeing you (partially) exposed, then do so in small increments with her OK. Read Chapter Three of the article that has a section on "Implied Consent". (Please scroll down.)

I hope this is of help. After reading the articles, please do not hesitate to ask questions.

[Brandye]

All women doubt their ability to do a blowjob and accept penetration. Almost all of us get over the latter but many never learn the former. Shy or outgoing, religious or not makes no difference. When we decide we are ready, we take the chance. Until then, not likely.

Some who resist performing oral sex are simply grossed out by the thought of taking a penis into their mouths. That needs to be sorted out by the woman. herself. If she is more comfortable, doing the cleansing herself may help. She may also end up with a facecloth full of semen! Just having a woman wash an erect penis will bring some young men off. Others are fearful of receiving a mouthful of semen. Both of these objections can be avoided by first trying with a (non-lubricated) condom. The mechanics can be learned without exposing herself to something objectionable. When some women see the pleasure they bring, their doubts begin to fade.

There is also the point often made here that we each have our limits. She may never be ready and may never perform oral sex. There are risks here, too, of another sort. Prostitutes generally report that the most requested service is oral and all responsible prostitutes will use condoms. Some of these women have been noted as sayign (Xaviera Hollander, for one) that wives willing to fo blowjobs would put them out of business.

Your "friend" is likely not doubting her ability (we can all learn to do almost anything) but, rather, her willingness or readiness. The first success will not magically erase all doubts but it will be a major step. I am certain that either book (or many others including notes on this Board) will give her the ideas of HOW it is done; it is up to her to decide WHETHER or WHEN to do it.

[Parstor]

You needn't buy a book for your friend, there is a plethora of information online, and a multitude of people willing to answer any questions on forums such as this. On the other hand, as a booklover, I can see that it would be a nice gift to receive

Before you buy a book though, check out this articles that I love: College Call Girl
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It's hard to offer advice without knowing her situation but if she is beginning then she should just try to take it slow and know that these experiences will be best if come about naturally, without pressure. (Easy to say, I know.)
If she is an old hand, so to speak, and is suddenly doubting her skills, then maybe it is time to do a bit of research, do a bit of experimenting and try to remember the reason we love sex - it's fun!

[EvilEvilKitten]

If the man does NOT move, it is easy - just suck like a popsicle, do some licking, add a twisting motion when going back up from base to glans (head). No biting please. IF he wants to move, then it is not fellation and it becomes 'face-fucking' and frankly - STOP THAT! Growl at him and tell him to lie there, don't move, and take it like a man. Be bossy. Hell, he's getting fellatio for heaven's sake. Men moving ruins her focus and spoils her rhythmn. So, guys, please just lie back, think of England, and enjoy it.

Trust me on this: he's not going to argue when his penis is near your teeth.

[Tacitascott]

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