No longer a virgin with a couple concerns

[babyimastar]

I had sex for the first time a couple of days ago with my partner and the entire act was so strange to me. I was a virgin until he broke me in. It happened so quickly and I didn't bleed which I thought was a bit strange (but normal, I know) and we also didn't use a condom (stupid mistake). I am not on the pill and i'm terrified that I might be pregnant. Here's the thing though, he didn't cum inside or out of me...am I just being paranoid or what?? Could his pre-ejaculation get me pregnant? He did pull out and enter back in once though. Another concern of mine is that I feel sort of numb and weird down there. Almost as if I lost all of my sensation (around my clitoris, etc)? What should I do? I am freaking out and thought that maybe i'd ask people on here to get some advice. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[Brandye]

Any time a penis is in a vagina, pregnancy is possible. It is strange that he did not ejaculate.

Not at all unusual to not bleed. Some of us do and some do not. If you have been using tampons, possibly nothing was left to tear. The numbness is most likely a result of new experience that is being experienced as trauma by your body.

If it has been less than 72 hours, get Plan B and take the pill(s) right away. Some countries use a three day guideline and some seven days. It should be available over the counter.

All women should have a gyn exam before they become sexually active. Given the numbness, especially, you should have a gyn exam now.

First things first: Get Plan B now.

[babyimastar]

I don't use tampons so I don't think that's the reason for me not bleeding. I'm hoping that the numbness I feel is normal. I've never been to a GYN before so it could possibly be something else? Who knows? It has been less than 72 hours. (This happened on Weds) I am going to get Plan B tonight. A GYN exam will happen soon. I'm aiming for this week. Thanks for the help.

[Brandye]

The sooner you take Plan B, the more effective it is. Stated in reverse, the longer you wait, the less effective it is. Do not wait until tonight; get it NOW!

[EvilEvilKitten]

You are also freaking out.
Use the Plan B now and get yourself examined and situated with birth control before enjoying sex again.

Actually it isn't all that wierd that he didn't ejaculate. Men aren't machines you know. They don't always cum.

As to feeling numb - RELAX! Clear your mind and stop freaking out. Review what you've been taught about sex, how you regard this guy, and take the time to sort it all out.

Did you orgasm?

[Brandye]

Right!? How many women even come close their first time?

[EvilEvilKitten]

True, Brandye.

But if he was any good, he'd regain his erection and make sure she orgasmed the SECOND time which should take place about 15 minutes after the first time. Using condoms both times, of course.

I'm gathering that they were both 'not properly prepared' for sex however.

[dancingdoc2]

...sounds to me like they aren't properly prepared to be parents, either.

[babyimastar]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

You are also freaking out.
Use the Plan B now and get yourself examined and situated with birth control before enjoying sex again.

Actually it isn't all that wierd that he didn't ejaculate. Men aren't machines you know. They don't always cum.

As to feeling numb - RELAX! Clear your mind and stop freaking out. Review what you've been taught about sex, how you regard this guy, and take the time to sort it all out.

Did you orgasm?

I took the Plan B pill like I said I was going to. I had sex on Weds afternoon/night and took the pill Friday night. Better late than never right??? I am ovulating right now and I am planning on taking a pregnancy test a couple of days before my next period. I hate to admit it, but I am still a little big paranoid. :/ Since i've taken Plan B, i've suffered with a few of the side effects...nausea, cramps, etc. All normal. I will continue to try to take it easy and the next time I decide to have sex, I will most definately be prepared, birth control, condoms, the whole nine. Thanks.

[babyimastar]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

...sounds to me like they aren't properly prepared to be parents, either.

You are correct. Yes and yes.