How young is too young?

[Mukfuker]

I got a question for all you experienced people how young is too young? I lost my virginity at 13 ...too young?

[dancingdoc2]

In a word: Absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes.

It is one thing to lose your virginity and go no further. It is quite another to be sexually active before you are mentally and physically developed enough. A girl's body is not fully developed in the early teen years making the potential delivery of a baby more complicated and problematic. Just because the two of you have gone thru puberty it only means your physiologies are ready to procreate, not her body and certainly not your mental maturity, emotions, and living conditions.

Until you are ready to take full responsibility for any pregnancy that might occur from indulging in adult activities, you should not be having sex. Until you are ready and able to care for a baby, you should not be having sex. Unless you are prepared to deal with having your life and future potentially changed, you are not ready, and, neither is your partner.

If a girl should become pregnant, because teens and people in their twenties are the most prone to having unplanned pregnancies, do not for a moment believe one or the other set of your parents are going to be raising your child having yet to finish raising you!

Unless and until you understand about the use of contraceptives along with responsible usage, you are not ready.

Until you understand that boys in their teens generally want sex for sex sake and that girls have other needs and desires, you are not ready until you learn more about the female of the species.

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You have much to learn and you have a lifetime ahead of you to be an adult. For now enjoy being a teen. Do not even consider having intercourse until you are dating. If you were my kid, that wouldn't be until you were at least seventeen. Before then boys and girls are simply not developed enough for all the interpersonal stuff that goes with dating--and, maybe not even at that age! as each of us develops along different timelines.

Right now hormones are ruling your head and judgement. Part of growing up is in learning how to deal with adult issues and responsibilities. Work on developing common sense, good sound judgement, and, letting these govern your actions.

[Brandye]

See the sticky on Am I Ready? There are so many factors that are to be considered including physical, psychological and social. The thirteen year old body may be ready for sex but likely not for pregnancy. The 13 yo psyche is not ready to worry about the period each month.

If you do not have a plan for how to handle pregnancy, you should not be taking the risk. How many 13 yo can do that planning?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Since your virginity is ALREADY over and done with - tis a moot point.

[VanellaSchnella]

Just do it responsibly with someone you know you can trust. Someone that you know won't hurt you emotionally or physically. And by responsibly I mean at the very least he should be using a condom and using it properly. I would recomend both birth control pills and the condom but some girls really get thrown off their mental and emotional stability from BC pills.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Huh?

BCPs are great!

1. minimum periods
2. no pregnancy worries
3. few side effects if any

Face reality, if she's schizo on BCPs then she's most likely even more schizo when NOT on BCPs. There are risks to taking BCPs, but once you get with the right formula, you're golden. But mental and emotional stability??!?!? NOPE!

Condoms, ALWYS use them, have no side effects unless someone's allergic or sensitive to ingredients.

[2little]

i currently volunteer in a group home for teens who have behavioral issues. I am currently 24 and i'll tell ya something, you learn a lot from these kids. most of the kids i interact with had lost their virginity before or at the age of 12. this really bothers me. I never thought about sex until i was 16 17.
i actually have one girl (age 15) who's bf had cheated on her and told her that if she'd let him put it in her anal than he would come back to her. and i am not putting the blame on men.

but i think sex is was overrated for young teenie boppers. they don't know what sex is all about, all they know is that it is something that "everyone does".

as for the right age to have sex? there is no "right" age. but i agree with mostly everyone else who posted a thread. kids need to be able to actually know the repercussions of the act

[EvilEvilKitten]

I blame the absence of decent sex education myself but it not the sex we're having problems with - it is the 'relationships' involved. 'Relationships' are the problem. Putting Tab A into Slot B isn't all that complicated.

[Mukfuker]

I do use condoms and pull out good enough for ya? And personally i blame the media and porn

[Mukfuker]

And as for Brandye, theres an abortion clinic round' here and she already decided that if she did she would.