Loosing virginity to fwb..?

[Manimal]

friend w/ benefit is what i'm looking for

[Manimal]

I'd just love to be having sex right now, but where I live, no one seems too want to do it

[VanellaSchnella]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Excuse me but YES the difference between "friends" and "friends with benefits" is exactly SEX. That is precisely what benefits means. Otherwise they'd just be friends.

Now if it was JUST all about sex and nothing more then they'd be 'fuckbuddies' which is basicly "thank you now get the hell out."

to recap:

friends = no sex
fuckbuddy = sex partner but not friend
friend with benefits = both friend and sex partner.

Like it or not - those are the definitions.
Are we all clear about this?

So what are friends that that makeout, finger/hanjob, felatio/cunnilingus, and those sorts of things without intercourse? Because to me those are still friends with benefits..but maybe theyre just friends to you. Obviously intercourse isnt her definition of friends with benefits because they havent had intercourse. So what it is to you might not be what it is to me or someone else.

[lnt1103]

This is an issue with people's working definitions of the word 'sex'. Most, when they think the word 'sex', think actual intercourse. Most would also consider intercourse one of the expected benefits. In reality, hand jobs, blow jobs, oral, are all sexual acts and therefore fit under the column of 'sex' when taken in its broader sense.

My guess is, he'll get tired of going home with 'blue balls' soon enough and want more from her. Or else, if they continue this way, in the heat of the moment sometime, she'll be so incredibly turned on that she has a two-minute change of heart about 'her Vcard', and badda bing badda boom.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Vanilla - it is all SEX - what you describe is foreplay and outcourse - but it is still SEX. Stop quibbling.

LOL badda bing badda boom!

But it would still be better if they had intercourse from intent rather than from happenstance.

[VanellaSchnella]

All good points. I guess I'm just the type of guy who would stop if she asked me to take her virginity in the heat of the moment and tell her to think about it for next time. And just because he isnt having intercourse doesn't mean hes getting blue balled by any means. Like no guy ever ejaculates by any means other than intercourse? If thats the case consider me a freak.

[springfever]

"Excuse me but YES the difference between "friends" and "friends with benefits" is exactly SEX. That is precisely what benefits means. Otherwise they'd just be friends."

Ok...well I would consider that FWB would include sexual activity, and not just sexual intercourse. I know other people who would consider/have had fwb, but not had full intercourse. It is still sexual activity, so I think it crosses the boundary of "just friends" in some sense.

I realise that it may get frustrating for him to not "seal the deal" so to speak. That is why I originally posted this thread. So, I have an answer to some extent in that it could be doing that. But I feel a little as if I have been played to be the bad guy here lol. Just because We don't have sex, doesn't mean no pleasure! As evilevilkitten said, the difference between fwb and fuck buddies, is fwb are also friends; which we are also.

I feel maybe I should stop things then, as it seems to be causing a great deal of hassel to him in your opinion, if I dont take things further.

I guess i thought it was all about communication...as Vanella said. He does know I am a virgin. And he does know that atm, I do not want sex. He said himself he respects me for saving it. Last time I spoke to him, it was great that we were able to be really open bout the situation, an I think that that is important. He also knows there is another side of me that just can't resist lol.

Int1103 has a point, in that I will probably just be too turned on one day to say no thou...

So maybe that is more of a reason to stop.

Thanks for your comments again, I feel some to be a tad harsh, but i can see your point

And sorry for the lentgh

PS. I live in the UK so sex is leagal above 16
PPs glad to hear your last comment Vanella lol, u sound like a nice guy, hope, and think my fwb would do the same...think he would.

[lnt1103]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

LOL badda bing badda boom!

Hey, am I wrong???? lol

Originally Posted by springfever

Int1103 has a point, in that I will probably just be too turned on one day to say no thou...

How do you think I lost mine? And I'd been committed to keeping my 'vcard' for MUCH longer than you have. That's how I know how easy it is for it to happen that way.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, Int, you're not wrong - it just made me laugh!

I do just wish people would give over being princesses and 'nice guys', and just be people. Sex is nothing to fear. *grinning*

[Rouge]

It's something to fear if you're me! A person naturally prone to hitting their head and other such acts of clumsiness!


....

But I still have sex. LOTS of sex.

Guess I can't ben THAT scared.