I'm Confuzzled About My Sexuality

[Puzzle]

So I'm a typical 16 year old teenage girl. I'm in the age group where I'm experiencing new things and I'm starting to want to explore and try out new stuff and basically the world is my oyster and a lot of new doors are being opened to me (punt intended) sexually.

However, I don't know if I'm bisexual or if being bi just means I'm afraid of being completely gay.

When I have my little fantasies at night I find that only lesbian scenes rolling over in my head seem to be able to arouse me.

I have liked a few guys in the past but for some reason having a hot guy in my fantasies doesn't seem to have the same effect.

Anyone have any idea what this could possibly mean

[*rockin*]

Well ya it can mean a lot of things, take the time to seek out what you feel in your head. Go ahead and go explore the world of guys and or girls. Don't be afraid to try out something new. Go with your gut instinct though, and follow it.
Good luck

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

we all go through what we like in life with male or females, its trial and error, i say nearly every person does it and say that they have.
i have done that and tried things, i wouldnt worry about it and let it work itself out
im sure there is other threads on this sort of stuff on this website

[dancingdoc2]

Hi and welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums.

Kids in your age bracket are exploring as you stated. Many questions and concerns crop up such as "am I gay/lesbian", Bi-, straight. Some people know from an early age, some late(r) in life, others sometime during their journey thru life. If you are curious then just be open minded and discover what develops for you over the next few years. You do not have to be anything right now. Let your raging hormones settle down, first. This will take a few more years. Once they do then you will have clearer knowledge about how you are "wired".

Please read this article:

Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?

Fantasies are just that. They can be about any subject or script. Do not be concerned if some are even outlandish or bizzare. As long as you do not act on them, any are fair game.

If a hot girl or scenario turns you on, that's OK.
If a hot guy or scenario turns you on, this too is OK.
If group sex scripts turn you on, have fun imagining.

Fantasies are designed to help turn us on, so let them and do not be too concerned about the scripting.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You are not confused about your sexuality, you are confused about your orientation and there's nothing wrong with being whatever that orientation happens to be at any given moment. Go forth with a light and joyous heart - you're normal.

[Alexxx]

Why don't you just try to date with a boy and then with a girls so you can understand who suits you better?

[Rouge]

Occasionally I have a similar situation. After a little taste of the lesbian side of things, girls have gotten me noticeably more worked up than guys. This being said, I find only my partner to be attractive when it comes to guys (very ridiculously attractive, I may add). I don't identify as bisexual, but call myself "straight with bi tendencies" as when it comes down to it, I enjoy a cock much more than I would enjoy time with girls.

It depends on what you prefer. You can only make this judgement after you've experienced both parts, however.

[Puzzle]

Well thanks everyone, but whats the difference between an orientation and sexuality? I thought that they were the same thing.

Thing is I've never been out with a guy so I really have no idea what it's like to have a guy wrap his arms around me Maybe that has something to do with it?

Also, I think I may have a slight dislike towards boys in general. I was screwed over by the last guy I liked so while I have many guy friends, I don't trust them to be any more than friends simply because of my own experience, and stories of friends. Could this possibly maybe be having an effect on how I see them in the bedroom?

And just generally, are boys at my age at all sincere? Cause everything seems to revolve around their ago and the size of their penis.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Puzzle - do not blame ALL guys for the faults of a FEW men. Just as not all women are the same, all men are not the same. It is not fair to judge all by the actions of one and at this age the guys are as confuzzled as you are. If you want someone with more experience, you're going to have to go illegal (18 and older).

Sexuality is everything including libido while orientation is strictly hetero, homo, or bi only.

Remember the guy who screwed you over? Try stepping back and looking at the situation OBJECTIVELY. Did you perhaps think it was love? Did you expect something? Could you have been mistaken in your perception? What did he think about it? You have to keep in mind that other people, including guys, may see things differently - same situation but different point of view.

In view of your limited experience you may want to hold off labeling yourself for a while yet.