How to tell her...?

[TryingMyBest]

Well, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a while now. While we haven't had sex, we do practice mutual masturbation. The thing is that she gets, seemingly, frustrated by the fact that she orgasms before me. The thing is that I enjoy some anal pleasure to increase the potency of an orgasm while masturbating by myself (this also hastens the orgasm). As I enjoy it by myself I would also like to do it when we are together. I really don't know how to go about bringing this up to her. Here are some issues that come to mind:
1. Will she think that I'm not satisfied with her HJ. (which I'm not)
2. Will I have to explain that I'm not bi-sexual.
3. Will she be turned off and just leave me.
GAH!! Any ideas on how to make this work?

p.s I have brought up anal play a few times and she doesn't seem to be interested at all.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by TryingMyBest

Well, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a while now. While we haven't had sex, we do practice mutual masturbation. The thing is that she gets, seemingly, frustrated by the fact that she orgasms before me.

She shouldn't get upset by this. Modern day etiquette suggests that guys help their partner to enjoy an orgasm first and last. In between, the two can have orgasms in whatever order and number they want.

Decades ago and about the time of the "sexual revolution" of the '60s it was not an uncommon philosophy for couples to strive to have simultaneous orgasms. As we have learned more about human sexuality and responses, this notion has pretty much become an activity of the past. Nice if they happen, yet don't be disappointed if they are few and far between.

The thing is that I enjoy some anal pleasure to increase the potency of an orgasm while masturbating by myself (this also hastens the orgasm). As I enjoy it by myself I would also like to do it when we are together. I really don't know how to go about bringing this up to her. Here are some issues that come to mind:
1. Will she think that I'm not satisfied with her HJ. (which I'm not)
2. Will I have to explain that I'm not bi-sexual.
3. Will she be turned off and just leave me.
GAH!! Any ideas on how to make this work?

None of us are mind readers. As communication is key to a successful relationship, I recommend discussing likes and dislikes with her at a time when the two of you are not about to become romantic.

You can try fingering or rimming her, staying outside. Do this only after she is very highly aroused, never before. See if she reciprocates. If not, you can discuss the matter.

p.s I have brought up anal play a few times and she doesn't seem to be interested at all.

Guess you have your answer.
Please keep in mind that as pleasurable as anal play is, it is not for everybody, and you can have nearly the same boost in intensity by simply being turned on much more than when home alone by being in each other's company and letting the pheromones and sparks fly.

Next, if you have not yet looked at the links and read some or all of the articles listed in the Index, I suggest you read these two:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Well, just because she isn't interested in anal play for herself does not mean that she won't give you anal play. You have to ask or say "I'd really like it if..."

Stop complaining about her manual technique and guide her hand. Show her how you like it done. Do it together!

Good manners = the lady orgasms first.

[TryingMyBest]

Thank you dancingdoc2 & EvilEvilKitten, your replies have helped a lot. The problem was really due to my anxiety about how she would view my sexual preferences, due to the stigma of male anal play. I need to stop worrying and just talk with her instead of always wondering. Again, thank you very much.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stigma? Okay, I guess so. But most experienced women know better.